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originally posted by: WilsonWilson
a reply to: nenothtu
I think though when terms become gender neutral it's the male version that tends to be used. Like the word tutor as I believe the female version is tutorvix which is a bit of a mouthfull.
originally posted by: WilsonWilson
a reply to: nenothtu
I think that's why they use derogatory words, if you say to someone, I don't agree with your attitude towards sex, then you could accept that as a difference of opinion and be fine. When somebody says you are a slut, that is intended to make the other person feel bad and ashamed.
I hope my daughter will be strong enough to rebuff any attempt to tear her down in this way.
originally posted by: Annee
a reply to: nenothtu
I'm not offended by being called Lovey, Honey, Sugar etc ----- it's the behavior that generally goes along with it.
Men being called Honey, doesn't usually demean them to a more subservient position.
originally posted by: nenothtu
You must not know many southern women, then! They're pretty sure that they own, operate, and direct ALL of us knuckle draggers! "Sugar" may be dripping with sweetness, but make no mistake - it tells you who they think the boss is! It's often the preface to being told exactly what you're going to do, and how and when you're going to do it.
I think using the derogatory term about someone who has different sexual morals is wrong.
originally posted by: nenothtu
You must not know many southern women, then! They're pretty sure that they own, operate, and direct ALL of us knuckle draggers! "Sugar" may be dripping with sweetness, but make no mistake - it tells you who they think the boss is! It's often the preface to being told exactly what you're going to do, and how and when you're going to do it.
originally posted by: WilsonWilson
a reply to: nenothtu
Why is feminist a demeaning word. It's the name of someone who believes in a certain ideology. It's like saying communist or republican are demeaning words.
originally posted by: Annee
originally posted by: nenothtu
You must not know many southern women, then! They're pretty sure that they own, operate, and direct ALL of us knuckle draggers! "Sugar" may be dripping with sweetness, but make no mistake - it tells you who they think the boss is! It's often the preface to being told exactly what you're going to do, and how and when you're going to do it.
BTW - I already brought up "Feminine Wiles" in an earlier post. When women had no rights, they only had themselves.
The stereotypical south is very male dominated and Southern Baptist is very male dominated. Another of the bosses, male, from Peachtree was looking for a church. I told him where there was a Baptist church. He was offended that I suggested a "liberal" Baptist church that allowed women on the pulpit.
I personally don't think the southern woman is "cute" in continuing to cultivate the "Feminine Wiles" behavior. But, in some areas, that culture persists.
originally posted by: ThirdEyeofHorus
a reply to: WilsonWilson
I think using the derogatory term about someone who has different sexual morals is wrong.
Men have always been given the social nod to do what they want sexually, while I think a double standard still holds for women. Honestly, while women have been given the green light to be sexually open, men still want to marry the virgin, but have fun with the open woman and men rarely get called the same names. Women have paid the price for their foray into sexual equality, that is while on the surface it feel like equality to have the same ability to have casual sex, in truth women are just freely giving away that which should be treated as their most priceless possession, sexual exclusivity.
And how many times have we heard the story that after living with a woman for years he suddenly dumps her then marries a woman he's known for a few months.
originally posted by: ThirdEyeofHorus
a reply to: WilsonWilson
I think using the derogatory term about someone who has different sexual morals is wrong.
Men have always been given the social nod to do what they want sexually, while I think a double standard still holds for women. Honestly, while women have been given the green light to be sexually open, men still want to marry the virgin, but have fun with the open woman and men rarely get called the same names. Women have paid the price for their foray into sexual equality, that is while on the surface it feel like equality to have the same ability to have casual sex, in truth women are just freely giving away that which should be treated as their most priceless possession, sexual exclusivity.
And how many times have we heard the story that after living with a woman for years he suddenly dumps her then marries a woman he's known for a few months.
originally posted by: nenothtu
originally posted by: diggindirt
Being the hedonistic heathen that I am, pleasure is one of my primary concerns. I can't imagine anything less pleasurable than a world filled with only women. Excess estrogen is just as toxic as excess testosterone. I've seen it and it's nasty. I think some of those women you met might have been some of my former students....or their spiritual sisters.
I believe you may be from similar origins as myself - both geographically and culturally, based upon information from your posts. We take life a little differently around here, and you probably do there, too.
I so wanted to respond to this comment of yours:
Yeah, we didn't have any Little League in our neighborhood. It ticked me off that the boys could go shirtless and I had to wear one.
But didn't. I no doubt would have been pounced upon for what I would have flippantly answered, even though it would have been in jest.
Sort of.
How 'bout this instead - Northerners are inherently misogynistic, and Southerners inherently inclusive. As evidence, I submit that it's built into the very language differences. For example, Northerners, when addressing a group, mixed or not, will begin with "you guys...", masculinizing the whole regardless of gender. Southerners, on the other hand, invariably begin with "you all...", "y'all... " or "yawl..." - a far more inclusive phrase.
I blame those militant feminists on the NC campus on Yankee invaders.
let the flames fly, and release the kraken!
originally posted by: WilsonWilson
I think the greeting "you guys" is almost genderless these days. I use it when I send emails to multiple people.
originally posted by: nenothtu
Legislation is useless. More laws just lead to more criminals when they're broken - they don't "fix" anything. laws are there so that politicians have something to point at if someone asks them what they're being paid for, and that's about it.
originally posted by: diggindirt
originally posted by: WilsonWilson
I think the greeting "you guys" is almost genderless these days. I use it when I send emails to multiple people.
Is "almost genderless" like being "a little bit pregnant'?
No, it isn't "genderless" it is masculine. The feminine is gals. The gender neutral term is folks or people or populace or...there are lots of them...perhaps being married to a linguist has affected my views....but you must admit the power of language as a tool.