posted on Nov, 14 2014 @ 10:08 PM
It happens everywhere, and I think most of us women are used to it.
It happens at ATS too. This last week I was in a discussion here with a guy that just repeatedly wrote disparaging things about women, and how stupid
they all are, etc. No one dared to enter the thread, and I didn't report it until something like the fourth or fifth day of it, and even then, I felt
I could only report the slurs directed at me individually.
If I had reported the extreme sexism, I would have been labelled a feminazi- despite the fact that I have very often spoken out in defense of men and
explained that I am against many types of feminist movements.
I understand that since the '70's we've developed the theory of giving only positive reinforcement, and ignoring completely all negative behaviors.
The theory is that people want attention foremost (be it negative or positive, doesn't matter) so if everyone ignores certain behaviors, they will
not continue them. I am of the opinion that that is not an entirely beneficial or constructive method, but even more so on Internet.
Even if everyone ignores innappropriate behavior on the internet, the person can still have the sense that they were heard and got attention- even
with no visible proof of it. No response, they can simply believe they hit so hard they stunned the other into silence- a form of dominance. A win.
.... even if the reality is that everyone who read it simply decided they were the worlds biggest moron and scrolled on past with an eyeroll and shake
of the head.
Much is left to the imagination in this medium.
I tend to assume, when I come across that kind of thing, that it is a young man or boy, who hasn't gained a more mature and experienced view upon
women. In the past, I would probably never have to interact with young men or boys much and they certainly wouldn't voice such opinions in my face.
So I don't know if there is more of it than there used to be, or just more occasions to see what was always underneath.
I do kind of wish that more men would speak up and deal with these young men on this kind of behavior, because clashing with a woman on it never seems
constructive- they are simply written off as being defensive and unable to be objective because they are the target of the comments.
The problem is frustrating because even speaking up against such hate speech confirms their claim that we are reactive and hysterical. It sometimes
feels like something of a trap.