a reply to: vkey08
I remember when I had to take speech and debate class in high school. The first time we debated anything the teacher just let us do whatever we
wanted. And boy did the insults fly.After the debate was over that day,he explained to us that it was important NOT JUST FOR DEBATES,but for life in
general to know how to effectively know how to debate properly to be able to interact in the world and to get what you want out of others,or at least
being able to be heard by others. In a social species such as ourselves this is a very important talent. We barter and trade and share ideas and
beliefs. In order to do those things successfully we must have ground rules that dictate our behavior so as to not have the opposite effect on others.
The are very basic rules that people tend to forget,but need to remember:
1 Be polite
2 Stay on the subject and not the person talking
3 Never insult nor make disparaging comments about anyone involved in the discussion
4 Bring your proof,documents,links,videos etc
5 Be prepared to LISTEN. Whether it is to see someone elses side of the issue or just to gather more info for you to refute,listening is an art,and
must be used to be effective.
6 Be prepared to back up your claims and refute the other sides if you have proof they are wrong on a point
There are others,but this would suffice to start off with. I keep this list in a file on my desktop and when I find myself in a heated topic on a
forum,before I hit the post button,I pull this file up and read over the rules. If I have violated any of them I either change my post or delete it.
Some things are just not worth getting that worked up about. Life is short,and you will regret wasted time before you die.
In this day and age I have seen many people that I can only chalk up to be bad parenting for they way they talk on forums. The seem to think they are
immune to any repercussions because they are on the internet. Anyone that thinks they are anonymous because they are sitting behind they're computer
is a fool of the worst kind. I can give you an example that happened to me.
I played World of Warcraft for years and somehow I always ended up an officer in whatever guild I was in. At one point I was in a 'uber' guild full of
elite players and always ended up getting dumped on with drama by the other members. It was insane. Soon as I logged on it would start. One day this
one woman that I will call 'X' was once again going on about having lost her more elite status within the guild and it wasn't fair boo hoo,and I'm
rolling my eyes and trying to answer all the whispers I'm getting from other members about the upcoming nights raid,to coordinate supplies. Then X
said something that made my blood go cold,she said she had had it and was going to go slash her wrists. No one wanted her anymore and wasn't worth
living. Needless to say this got my attention. I'm not a fan of big brother,but I also know I don't want someone's death on my hands. I live in
Missouri and X lived in New York.I knew I had to act fast since she had thrown a tantrum and logged off to kill herself. I immediately got ahold of
one of the game moderators and told them what was happening. they contacted the police and get X help. One of the other guild members that actually
knew X told me after,she had slit her wrists but the police came and kicked in her door. She spent weeks in a hospital under guard as a suicide risk .
I hated to do it,but I'm glad she is alive. Of course when she did come back on the game she was terribly mad at me,but I can live with that.
This goes to show you,that you are not immune to being found,if you say the wrong things you can and will be found for sure. No one is truly
anonymous,nor have they ever really been. I would never have done this if it hadn't been a matter of life and death. But other people may not be so
careful. Follow the rules of debate and behave yourself. It can not only save you a lot of trouble,but also you won't have regrets later on when your
not angry anymore.
edit on 6-11-2014 by Dimithae because: added words