a reply to: dollukka
I don't know where you're getting agenda 21 from on this? We adopted a fetal alcohol syndrome child and we had a helluva a time raising her. When she
was 16 months old, she only weighed 14 pounds, she had failure to thrive, liver and heart problems, facial asymmetry, her skin was almost transparent
due to the mothers alcohol, coc aine, etc. use. Later in life however we found out she was a savant in music (she can handle any instrument and
learn any song very quickly, I started teaching her keyboards at 3 yrs old), as for academic style learning, rationalization, critical thinking or
consequences, well below average. We joined FAE/FAS groups just to get some kind of outside support and try to help her, but all the other FAE/FAS
kid's parents were even worse off. At least our child didn't graduate to ending up in jail, doing B&E's, drinking or as prostitute by 13 like most of
the others. We had the time however, to watch over her constantly, most parents don't, but it was tiring always having to monitor her activities, but
that's part of being a parent. You do what you have to do to protect your kids.
Raising a FAE/FAS child can be like living in a minefield. It takes a long time to figure out the path you need to take to get through it and for most
there is never enough time to learn where to put your "feet." But, all that being said, it's not the child's fault, it's the biological mother that is
more interested in that temporary high that changes the child's life FOREVER and effects every person around them, every relationship. Drinking while
pregnant does PERMANENT genetic damage, it can't be reversed, there is no cure, there is no management drug/band-aid that's going to fix the problem.
There is only time and some of the FAE/FAS symptoms do tend to fade a little with age.
Should a mother be charged for drinking while pregnant? I think the answer to that lies in, "Would you charge a mother who gave her 3 month old enough
alcohol to get them drunk every day?" It's not just child endangerment, it's negligence at best and deliberate assault at worst, especially since
there is so much information on FAE/FAS.
No Agenda 21 here, seems to me a bit of common sense, which is surprisingly uncommon.
Cheers - Dave
edit on 11/6.2014 by bobs_uruncle because: (no reason given)