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originally posted by: bigfatfurrytexan
a reply to: Tangerine
The ladies that watched that video that I know...the general response was along the lines of, "why would you go into those areas if not to manufacture a response?" and "Well considering where she was walking, seems like it could have been far worse".
The women I know (my wife, the lady i "work for", my wife, my sisters...they all put responsibility on people to manage their own risk here).
A good reason I have never been car jacked: i don't go into areas where that happens. And I carry a gun with me at all time. Were someone to try, it would be a very bad day for them. Hell, even my mom sleeps with a 410 pump action next to her bed. We manage risk.
originally posted by: bigfatfurrytexan
a reply to: Nyiah
its ok. Men and women ARE different. Fundamentally so. Like, right down or our DNA/chromosomes. any reasonable person would not expect others to pretend that we aren't different.
I treat my wife like a woman. Meaning, I would never tell her she's an "eff up" when she drops a glass in the floor. My male counterparts? Absolutely. Then I'd smile at them and we'd have a chuckle. While I stood there and watched them pick up their mistake. My wife? Im going to trip over myself trying to help her.
Why? Because she is a woman, who has different expectations from our interactions together.
Its not sexist. I LOL at any accusations of such. No more than my pointing out my latin wife doesn't get a sunburn as easily as her pasty husband is racist. Fact is fact. Truth is truth. We are different. Not better. Not worse. Just different.
I believe a reasonable person would be unlikely to consider a comment directed at a woman such as, "You have beautiful hair" made by a passing man who doesn't impede the woman's movement or make lewd gestures to be harassment. I believe a reasonable person would be likely to consider a comment directed at a woman such as, "I'd like a piece of that!" to be harassment.
Using the "reasonable person" qualifier may actually be a plus because it will cause most men to stop and think before saying something.
Why should there be no standards when men see women walking down the street?
I don't want to live in a repressive society but I also think everyone should have the right to walk down the street without fear.
Understand that this is about something incremental.
Women do understand that cat-calls are not on the same level as physical assault. But women also understand that things can escalate very quickly and the cat-calls are one step on the escalator.
You ask if this is really feminism. Feminism is the notion that women are equal. In this context it implies that women have as much right as men to walk down a street without being harassed.
Women learn very quickly to distinguish between a friendly and appropriate approach of an interested man and the approach or glance or words of a predator. It’s survival strategy and humans are hard-wired to assess threat.
You expressed concern about pre-emptive strikes. This suggests that you don’t see a problem with men harassing women. There are no pre-emptive strikes. The man has committed an act of harassment.
Though the phrase "sexual harassment" is generally acknowledged to include clearly damaging and morally deplorable behavior, its boundaries can be broad and controversial. Accordingly, misunderstandings can occur. In the US, sexual harassment law has been criticized by persons such as the criminal defense lawyer Alan Dershowitz and the legal writer and libertarian Eugene Volokh, for imposing limits on the right to free speech.[
Other critics assert that sexual harassment is a very serious problem, but current views focus too heavily on sexuality rather than on the type of conduct that undermines the ability of women or men to work together effectively. Viki Shultz, a law professor at Yale University comments, "Many of the most prevalent forms of harassment are designed to maintain work-particularly the more highly rewarded lines of work-as bastions of male competence and authority."[105] Feminist Jane Gallop sees this evolution of the definition of sexual harassment as coming from a "split" between what she calls "power feminists" who are pro-sex (like herself) and what she calls "victim feminists", who are not. She argues that the split has helped lead to a perversion of the definition of sexual harassment, which used to be about sexism but has come to be about anything that's sexual.
There are times when Alan Dershowitz has his head up his ass. He regards torture as justifiable in some circumstances. I regard free speech as vitally important but the legal right to free speech does not protect harassing speech or threatening speech.
Personally, I've got far bigger fish to fry.
originally posted by: Spiramirabilis
a reply to: Tangerine
There are times when Alan Dershowitz has his head up his ass. He regards torture as justifiable in some circumstances. I regard free speech as vitally important but the legal right to free speech does not protect harassing speech or threatening speech.
If you try to understood his views on torture from the angle he delivers them - you might be surprised:
As Dershowitz has repeatedly claimed, in print and in interviews, torture is morally repugnant. This (intuitive) view, however, is insufficient (on Dershowitz’s view, as on Michael Walzer’s) to decide whether or not torture might be politically justified in particular cases. Dershowitz claims that, given the inevitability of torture, as a democracy we simply must provide some judicial oversight of this practice. Such oversight (in the form of “torture warrants”), Dershowitz claims, will limit the amount of torture currently practiced by agents of the U.S. government.
So, not justifiable - the best we can hope for is to try and rein it in as best we can and make it more difficult or impossible to do. Not that different from what you're proposing :-)
We can come at a problem from several different angles - they can work together to change how society feels about things - death penalty, torture - sexism
Anyhow - that bit I showed you wasn't supposed to be about Dershowitz
I said earlier on (so long ago...) that you could make a case for it being hate speech - seems to me that would be the only workable angle if you want catcalling to become illegal
Personally, I've got far bigger fish to fry.
In a nutshell. We've got far bigger fish to fry. My entire argument in one pithy sentence
I wish you would pass that along to all the gals at Hollaback :-)
We don't actually agree on this one. Not all women will see this the same way - or all men. Same as most of humanity's major (or minor) disagreements. Fighting about it in public is our best hope for change
Gay marriage is a pretty good example of how this works. No shots fired - look how far it's come
Just by talking
P.S. Sorry so long getting back :-)