It looks like you're using an Ad Blocker.
Please white-list or disable AboveTopSecret.com in your ad-blocking tool.
Thank you.
Some features of ATS will be disabled while you continue to use an ad-blocker.
It's only harassment if it's not flirting.
Money happens to be an intrinsic part of the natural selection process and the more a man has of it, the better. There's no need to spin-doctor it to make it look like a 'male interpreted' thing. BTW, I changed my mind about the GQ bit because the truth is, he can be as ugly as sin just as long as he's "gainfully" secured. Joe Dimaggio - Marilyn Monroe for inst.
originally posted by: Spiramirabilis
a reply to: Tangerine
We teach them that they're not, by virtue of being male, entitled.
Entitled to what?
I have a problem, if I'm going to be honest - with this idea that life can somehow be sanitized for our protection
On the other hand - women have changed so much about their circumstances by being such a pain in the ass culturally (I mean that in a good way) that both women and men were forced to look at what was acceptable to all and then see it differently. That takes persistence and time
New Zealand model re-creates viral catcalling video, does not get catcalled at all
The issue isn't "boys being boys." It's deep culturally embedded sexism
In an interesting test of the “boys will be boys” hypothesis, the New Zealand Herald decided to re-create the Hollaback video on the streets of Auckland, recruiting a model named Nicola Simpson to star. As in the New York video, Simpson walked around the city for 10 hours behind a hidden camera chronicling her trip. And guess what happened? She received zero catcalls. None. Not one.
Is it cultural? Is it men? Is it all men? Is it American men? Is it the men in NYC? Is there a solution to this problem? Do we all agree that this is a problem? If it is a problem, do we all agree it's a priority? Are men allowed to have an opinion on all this?
Can we even decide, first of all, what it is we're looking at here? Is this rape? Assault? Is it intimidation? Is it impolite? Is it flirtation? Is it annoying? Degrading? Is it possible that it's all these things being lumped together into one category?
I'm asking - seriously - what's the plan? Teaching boys that they aren't entitled - to what? Seems like most boys are raised right, so what do we do about those few that think 'Hey baby! Looking fine...' is friendly? Are we sure that it's not?
Trust me on this Tangerine - I am aware that women still have much work to do if we're going to change our circumstances. There are other places in the world that could really benefit form our attention right now - I wish we would be a little choosier when we pick our battles. I know this is important to you, but just being mad isn't going to fix anything - especially if we focus on things that aren't fixable
Take Action
Check out their site - investigate it thoroughly. They don't have a plan either - not even close. I've been thinking about this a lot for the past few days, this isn't the only thread to deal with this. I've been reading up on this movement for a little while now. It's very interesting, but I'm not sure it's about what it's about - if you know what I mean
originally posted by: Tangerine
Yes, it's cultural. Either a culture tolerates it or it does not. The sub-culture in New York clearly tolerates it. The solution is to make it illegal (it already may be illegal to harass. i don't know) and enforce it until it is not culturally tolerated. Yes, there will still be predators, but they will no longer be as plentiful and men who are not predators will join women in not tolerating that harassment.
originally posted by: bigfatfurrytexan
originally posted by: Tangerine
Yes, it's cultural. Either a culture tolerates it or it does not. The sub-culture in New York clearly tolerates it. The solution is to make it illegal (it already may be illegal to harass. i don't know) and enforce it until it is not culturally tolerated. Yes, there will still be predators, but they will no longer be as plentiful and men who are not predators will join women in not tolerating that harassment.
Perhaps you could identify which laws have been written that actually put a stop to a behavior. What ends up happening is folks with good conscience stop doing whatever was made illegal. Everyone else...they ignore it. Seems to me that people of good conscience are not the type to catcall women. I guess, to sum it up, the net you are casting isn't going to catch any fish. Never has, never will. Writing new laws is only meant to make people FEEL safer, not actually BE safer.
with that said, I would like to turn your attention to the bolded part above. It is frustrating to discuss these topics with someone who is militant in their firmness of belief, only to have them point out that they really don't know if their solution is already in use. One thing stands the test of time: laws written for one thing tend to be leveraged against people for something else entirely. You re proposing legislation to address a problem that exists in a very small part of this large country, among a very small population of people. Its another instance of holding the entire nation accountable for the actions of a few.
Besides, it is unAmerican. People have freedom of speech. People hve freedom of movement. Will those freedoms be used inappropriately? Certainly. That is why it is referred to as "the rough seas of liberty", juxtaposed against "the calm harbors of tyranny".
ETA: it might work better if we establish that you will not "teach" a misogynist to respect women. It just isn't going to happen short of hours and hours of counseling. The only way to "teach" somone who like to assail women to not do it is a blackjack to the kneecaps. I am a 300+ lb man, former college football lineman and champion powerlifter. I have walked in NYC before. And I damn sure didn't do it without something to keep me from being an easy target. It would be foolish for someone else to try. Especially a female that knows sh is no physical match for a male assailant.
The solution is to make it illegal
originally posted by: bigfatfurrytexan
a reply to: Tangerine
I have a whole speech on this topic, but Ill summarize it with this: people have huddled into cities seeking safety. They have supported laws that have removed responsibility for safety from them, and placed it on "authority". Guns have been confiscated, you can't walk with a stick, and knives have to only be big enough to clean your fingernails. Meanwhile, when someone is being beaten, onlookers have an attitude of "its not my job". So they continue to onlook, and wait for "the authorities" to respond.
The problem isn't catcallers. Or rapists. Or murderers. The problem is relinquishing responsibility to authority.
I live in the country. Some dudes getting his ass kicked, onlookers will break up the fight and try to figure out what they are fighting over. If a woman is being yelled at by her husband/boyfriend, someone is going to tell him to shut the hell up and act right. If someone notices a house being burgled, they will act. We don't have "onlookers" in rural areas. We have people who act.
Now, these two dynamics are generalizations. They aren't a steadfast rule, but a general rule. Someone could misconstrue this as a "pro gun rant". But it really isn't. Its about humans being left unable to defend themselves, and unwilling to defend each other, because they have been made to yield authority over their safety to a third party.
FWIW, i have talked to my wife about this a bit over the last couple of days. Among other women. I have yet to find a single woman, locally, that buys anything in that video. On a sidenote, I asked the fly that i swatted earlier what he thought. He obviously was not impressed with his right to safety. It is a deadly planet, afterall.
You don't have to understand rural culture.
Nor do you need to understand the different between a curb stomp, and hurt feelings.
If what you described here is true, then I understand at least one thing about the "rural culture", that it promotes sexism: people help if men are yelling at women but not if women are yelling at men.