a reply to: Iamschist
Now that I think about it, my parents pretty much gave free reigns, in fact a bit to much. When I was a kid I would stay up till 2 am at night
playing hide and go seek with my friends, our general bed time would be at least 12 at night. I would literally get on my bike and go half the town
away to a river under the bridge past highways and everything and all just so I can catch salamanders and crawdads in the place, I would go or me and
my friends would go all over the place. Once we even caught a whole bunch of them the little ones and put them in a stream in our neighborhood so
they would grow there, and ya in a year next summer we had crawdads in that little stream.
Even at night sometimes I would hang out with the gangsters, even more then a few times heading in the back of the apartments were we lived and since
they were all older I would watch them all shoot at trees, a few times having the cops called and running in the dark through bushes and everything
while the idiots were still shooting at random. And everything in between, including building tree houses, in fact once climbing a big tree it was at
least 3 stories high, I remember once I got to the top I was stuck there for a while because going down was going to be more of a pain then going up.
Once even climbed one of those big main powerline towers. And then much latter in school I remember they had a video were they showed us why we
should never climb those things, and then thinking maybe I should stop doing that...Oh ya! I could have ended up crispy more then often. We even had
fights and everything as kids, we would take gloves and go out to the park and just punch the # out of eachother, sometimes even real fights would
ensue over mundane things like arguments when playing football.
Now that I think about it, I may have not been a wild child as I didnt smoke or drink or do any weird things, but the # I got up to was more of
danger then most of the bad kids got up to and I had to go farther to do it. And that was the least of it, in fact if half the things I got up to when
I was kid if my parents knew about, they would not let me outside period. But then I was the only kid I knew who would skip school and go to the
library to read books...So go figure.
So ya! I probably would not know were to start on those questions, because really they would not apply to me even when I was a kid. But to answer
your questions anyways.
1: I think you probably have to find a balance in that, technology is growing so fast that now a days most kids would know more about it then there
parents do. If you keep it all away from them they will grow up not even knowing about the world they are in, and lets face it today you have to have
as much electronics skills as you can. Most things and a lot of jobs out there are based on electronics in one form or another. Its more and more a
tool which is a necessity to have, anything from smartphones to knowing how to operate computers and what not. Even the social outlets on the internet
are just turning into another function of modern society.
However I think electronics and technology will change things period no matter if you have been exposed to it or not. Its just the nature of the
2: Ah doom and gloom for kids is just fluff, even if they sensed anything was going on they would not know it if it fell on there heads from space. I
think it is dangerous to constantly bombard kids with that, it is even more dangerous to have them grow up into a world they are not aware. In the
past and even now a days its always been that we basically told kids lies dressed up as fairy tales about the real world, and once they grew up they
basically had to re-learn to basically forget everything they have been thought as kids. Because oh so shockingly the world there parents thought them
was far different then the world they got out into. Some sense of balance and logic and a bit more realism need apply if you get what I am saying,
instead of the constant fluffer we shove in there heads while young. Basically in moderation again as the first question.
3: Online bullying is a lot easier to put up with then real actual bullying. In fact you can not know the difference till you have gone to the actual
thing to see how silly it is to be put up by some stranger online. In all to tell the truth I was more afraid of the fact that my parents would learn
about it then i was of bullies. In fact that little fact kept me and riled me up more then anything, in school you always get bullies.
I would have rather preferred that I could just fight and get it over with then all the stupid consequences you have to go along with putting up with
it. And eventually it becomes a bit taboo and everybody pushes it to the side, and even the ones getting bullied try to live with it. And in my case
even when i was bullied, I wanted to tear some of them up right then and there, even once thinking of pushing a kid off a highrise so I can get over
with it. But I never went along with it, not because of the bulling itself, but because the consequences of it all would be worse then the actually
bulling. And when you have to deal with that day in and out, and because once they know they can get away with it they will do it again and again.
Well to tell the truth it would be better at least for boys if the gym teacher or whoever got the bully and the one they were bullying together and
gear them up and let them swing at each other then let them go there own way. But that will only work for some kids, I dont even know if girls got
bullied at school, though if they did it was mostly girls stuff, being uncool or snipe comments about whatever.
So bullying in one form or another is a part of life, in fact even at work and everywhere else. It would be more sensible if you had some sort of
formal challenge no matter who they were. You know! You sir have offended my honor, I challenge you to a duel, and then proceed to aim for the jaw.
So far the way society has been doing it the only thing that has happened is that bullies in general have learned how to get away with it easier and
go farther with it in life.
But hey I am sure everybody has there ideas on this thing.
4: Stranger danger. Well never go anywhere with strangers. Simple as that, on the dot, no exceptions.
5: That's a bit more tricky, I mean it depends on what kid of kid you got. And really, your neighborhood, and how mature they are, and there mental
outlook and everything. Offline and online I would say it depends on age, if there young dont let them go on some sites, or to you know run wild or do
anything crazy or stupid or hang around with some people. I am kind of an exception, but my younger brother ended up bad because of it and is still
having issues to this day with the law and his records and everything because of the people he chose to hang around with.
So really it depends on the person in question. And if you dont know your own kid, then your in trouble to begin with. The worst thing however that
happens is when kids raise kids. I mean they should have some free reign but not to free, because kids are stupid and do stupid things even when
there teenagers, but if there to free then they will never settle into the confines of society at large, and believe you me society is a confined
concept itself. So again more moderation is required.
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