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originally posted by: skalla
a reply to: WhiteAlice
Sure, it's not my intention to imply you thought it made one a loon, just my reflection on how people can perceive someone talking to a stranger in a busy city.
I've lived in some pretty rum areas, though as a dude it's a slightly different experience ofc. I often find that the rougher the area, the nicer and friendlier the decent folk, but then there have been times when folk may have assumed i was the potential trouble maker and given me a wide berth.
Sadly, sometimes it really is safer to view everyone as a threat and flat out avoid them (rather than just being a potential threat and to be alert). But it's a shame when we cant give a fellow human a little leeway and it's no surprise many communities have disintegrated when there is no trust, though in many case one can understand the reasons for extreme social caution.
Myself though, i'll carry on as i am and give a little trust to all except those that really set my dogs barking, but as a man who can still look after himself in most situations it's a lot easier for me to say that.
originally posted by: Benevolent Heretic
So, a lot of them were hitting on her, rude, aggressive and scary, but a few were saying "hello"? Well, without sounding too bitchy, good for those few. As a woman and rape victim, I'm not even going to hear the few who are genuinely saying 'hello" to me. I'm scared, feel like a piece of meat on display and totally creeped out. I don't think you're being naive, I think you're maybe NOT thinking about her feelings in an attempt to protect those few who MAY have been just being friendly.
about how one looks or how their ass looks or anything like "DAMN!" ... I NEVER call anyone "baby" on the street. Do you? This woman was NOT making eye contact. She was clearly disturbed at all the attention she was getting. But the men just kept bothering her.
I don't think ONE guy in that video was just being friendly. But to give them the benefit of the doubt, let's assume a few were. I'm not talking about them. I'm talking about the vast majority who told her to smile, and persisted when she didn't, commented on her looks, mentioned money, called her "mami", "baby", or "darlin", said simply, "Nice!" or "Damn!" The guy who said "God Bless you, have a good day" is the one who followed her for 5 minutes. God bless you, my ass! He was a freaking stalker.
Watch the video again and see how many genuinely friendly "hellos" there were... while they watched her ass as she walked away.
originally posted by: skalla
a reply to: WhiteAlice
I'm not sure if you are agreeing or disagreeing with me! But the guys in the vid, imo, were pretty much being creeps but then i'm a brit so we'd more likely be a touch more formal and polite about things.
originally posted by: skalla
a reply to: WhiteAlice
I'm not sure if you are agreeing or disagreeing with me! But the guys in the vid, imo, were pretty much being creeps but then i'm a brit so we'd more likely be a touch more formal and polite about things.
Sadly, sometimes it really is safer to view everyone as a threat and flat out avoid them (rather than just being a potential threat and to be alert). But it's a shame when we cant give a fellow human a little leeway and it's no surprise many communities have disintegrated when there is no trust, though in many case one can understand the reasons for extreme social caution.
Myself though, i'll carry on as i am and give a little trust to all except those that really set my dogs barking, but as a man who can still look after himself in most situations it's a lot easier for me to say that.
originally posted by: skalla
Should one use that as reason to never talk to another human in a public place who you have not met before?
originally posted by: blupblup
Firstly I am not protecting anyone..
Well I don't know? Are we lumping them all in together?
We have no idea which of those guys was genuinely saying hello...
But my only point was we don't know that every single "greeting " was harassment or sexual solicitation, yet the video includes seemingly harmless hellos and states at the end that this was all abuse and harassment, I'm merely pointing out that I don't think it's possible to judge that just from the footage.
originally posted by: skalla
a reply to: Benevolent Heretic
It was rhetorical.
originally posted by: BELIEVERpriest
a reply to: WhiteAlice
I hear ya, personally, Im always armed to the teeth wherever I go, but I didnt want my paranoia to rub off on our fellow ATSers.
originally posted by: WhiteAlice
a reply to: BELIEVERpriest
A gun? Just a gun? lol When I lived downtown, I used to carry a gun, had a switchblade hidden in the lining of my jacket, a tazer in another pocket and mace on my keychain.
I don't know whether that should make anybody laugh or cry, lol.
originally posted by: Soloprotocol
originally posted by: WhiteAlice
a reply to: BELIEVERpriest
A gun? Just a gun? lol When I lived downtown, I used to carry a gun, had a switchblade hidden in the lining of my jacket, a tazer in another pocket and mace on my keychain.
I don't know whether that should make anybody laugh or cry, lol.
People should be afraid of YOU..you got more weapons than North Korea.