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originally posted by: meomy
Maybe this is a rant. I'm not sure. I've reached a point where I'm not sure what I should be teaching my 8 year old about listening to adults anymore.
All my other kids are grown and moved out, but my youngest who is adopted is still at home. I taught the older ones to listen to adults and treat them with respect, but I'm not so sure anymore. My youngest has some cognitive problems because of prenatal alcohol exposure as well as severe ADHD. Her cognitive delays effect her behaviour and memory, but not her level of intelligence. She is incredibly bright.
The problem? The neighbours are scaring the crap out of her via their children. The town is small and mostly fundamentalist. I was raised Catholic. Apparently we're hell bound because I won't go to church here. If only it stopped there. We bought her a bike with a monster jam character on it. It was purple. It was on sale. What more could you want in a bike? Unfortunately it is a symptom of demonic influence!!!! Yep my daughters bike proves she does not believe in God and likes demons. She did not ride her bike for a week until we had a discussion about adults sometimes being wrong. We had this discussion because the friends tell her this is what their parents tell them. Next we had to discuss that no, Halloween is not actually the devils birthday.
So we got through these things, and today we reached what to me is the ultimate of crazy for us. Minecraft. My daughter loves Minecraft. She loves to create. She's a little obsessed but kids with ADHD have that hyper focus issue.
A little boy came to the door and wanted her to play. She didn't want to as she was having fun playing toys downstairs. He went off on a spiel about how she shouldn't be playing Minecraft because it was created to brainwash children into following demons. I cut him off and said that's ridiculous. "That's what my mother says. She researched it"
I told him she can't play right now. I didn't know what else to say. Not my child.
If this was one incident with one child the solution is obvious. It's neighbourhood wide. At least 50% seem to be spouting this nonsense. I know it's time to move. It's going to take a little while to do that with getting the house ready to sell. In the meantime I don't know what to tell my daughter about the strange and spooky stuff she keeps hearing. Respect adults seems to just be flying out the window while they are saying such stupid things to small children. I tell her they're wrong. She is out there starting fights in the streets. She does have cognitive issues and repeats everything I say. Psst don't tell so and so, but her mother is an idiot won't work. Different people believe different things won't work because with her FASD she is a concrete thinker. She needs to be taught this is right, this is wrong. I'm being forced to teach her that these adults are not worth listening to and that feels wrong to me too. I want her to respect adults, but these are not ideas that are worth respecting.
I'm disgusted we are even going through this. It's like I'm sending her into a virtual horror movie with constant worry about evil and demons. We don't discuss these ideas with small children in my house. The scariest thing we discuss is broccoli. There are Creepers and Zombies in Minecraft, but she's not scared of them. It's a game. She plays in creative mode. Not because she's scared but because they're frustrating and destroy her stuff she's made.
I know this sounds rambling, but I'm confused. I don't know what to say to her that won't cause more problems in the neighbourhood for her and I don't understand these people. They're more focused on darkness than any group of people I've ever met while thinking they're bringing light. They're going to give her nightmares. I don't understand how their own kids don't have nightmares.
I don't want this to be a religious arguement. I just want to know how other people deal with beliefs of other parents or whoever that you completely disagree with. I want her to respect people. I want her to have friends. I just don't want her driven insane by complete bunk.
I don't want this to be a religious arguement.