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10 Hours of Walking in NYC as a Woman

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posted on Oct, 29 2014 @ 06:11 AM
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JUST because a woman is good looking is HARDLY any REASON to behave like that.

ok i read some comments, I thought this clip was going to show men acting like total animals and i have to say apart from the two idiots that walked with her which was fairly creepy, the majority of the comments were casual greetings.
now where i come from people generaly say "G'day mate" or "hey hows it going" to people we dont even know if we make eye contact, it's Australia.
Hell if that chick came down here, her and the person filming would probably be in the fetal position in the hotel room from all the "harassment".




posted on Oct, 29 2014 @ 06:19 AM
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Some of those guys were creepy. However I think all of the lingering weirdo ones were just wishful thinking opportunists.. Some of the guys sitting on the side of the road just seemed to be smart arses who were just wasting their time existing & would have been just as eager to talk rubbish to/ at some low arse baggy pants wearing teenage try hard wannabe dirtbag boy as they were this women.

Saying that, as a women there are certain areas I avoid like the plague & usually have the headphones on for a reason. This video isn't a reflection of ALL men, it merely highlights the stupidity of certain men. Much like those girls who dress up for the races wearing shoes they can't walk in & outfits one size too small who fall over #faced after consuming a thimble of champagne - are not typical examples representative of ALL women.



posted on Oct, 29 2014 @ 07:26 AM
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This is actually on local news now and is as ridiculous as Taylor Swift becoming NYC's welcome ambassador.

Really though, this transplant is not just new to New York, but to life it seems. This "anti harassment" campaign will fail miserably.
edit on 29-10-2014 by mikeone718 because: (no reason given)



posted on Oct, 29 2014 @ 07:38 AM
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a reply to: Domo1

Street harassment is a problem, but i think this video is manipulating the definition of harassment, and the frequency of which it occurs. Many statements made in the video are general greetings and compliments, while others undoubtedly fall into the realm of harassment.

The woman walked through New York City for 10 hours, and only got 2 minutes worth of footage to claim harassment by men. I will add 5 minutes for the guy who was following her, and just to be lenient, another 5 for the other guy. That is 12 minutes worth of harassment she claims, out of a 10 hour experiment.

While i will sit here and call her out on her motives and evidence, there is no doubt that street harassment is an issue. I take issue with her claiming that general greetings are evidence of harassment. Yes, it depends on the motive of the individual, and the position of which the receiver/victim is in. But the day we stop saying 'good morning' to each other, the day we die as a species. We are a social animal, and it would be a worrying trend to see negligible compliments and greetings fall under harassment.



posted on Oct, 29 2014 @ 08:40 AM
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My opinion's not going to be popular, but I absolutely see her point and I have been in her shoes when I was younger. It's creepy as hell to know that by simply walking down the street, I am seen as some kind of display that people think they can make comments about. Having been raped, it makes it even worse. It's scary.

How many people would say the same to a man walking down the street? "How you doing, beautiful" and "DAMN!" If not harassment, it's extremely rude and aggressive.


originally posted by: Shana91aus
I think she is over reacting a bit, and really would it hurt to smile and be polite and say hello back


Would it hurt? Maybe. Maybe it's the "invitation" they're hoping for. An acknowledgement might just mean "she wants it"...

I can't believe I just starred cavtrooper7 LOL!



posted on Oct, 29 2014 @ 09:14 AM
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It happens to me more than I like. I try to take it as a compliment but, mostly it's just creepy. Especially if its a group of men.

When I'm by myself it makes more sense but, when I'm walking with my kids it seems highly disrespectful. Even more so when I'm with my husband.

It makes my older son furious and my husband has nearly been in several fights over it.

Some women don't mind the catcalls, some do. To each their own.

Personally, it does nothing for me but make me uncomfortable.

I mean, what exactly are the protocols for such a situation? If we don't acknowledge the unsolicited attention we are called the b or c word. If we do, we are leading them into thinking they have a chance.

I honestly don't know what the proper reaction is...if there even is one. So, the whole situation just makes me socially uncomfortable.



posted on Oct, 29 2014 @ 09:46 AM
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a reply to: Domo1

I think the report is waste of space!

There's 'Harassment' and there's 'Compliments'.

99% of the guys in that video were paying a 'Compliment', although granted they didn't really look at all intelligent!

Honestly, whats wrong if I want to say to a nice girl 'Hi, how are you?' or 'wow, you are looking hot today'.
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posted on Oct, 29 2014 @ 11:01 AM
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originally posted by: MagesticEsoteric
It happens to me more than I like. I try to take it as a compliment but, mostly it's just creepy. Especially if its a group of men.

When I'm by myself it makes more sense but, when I'm walking with my kids it seems highly disrespectful. Even more so when I'm with my husband.


Of course there are lines that should not be crossed.

But, do I want a world of people like this girl? No, I don't.

Are we really that jaded?

And Yes! I've had many experiences like this.



posted on Oct, 29 2014 @ 11:09 AM
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originally posted by: TruthxIsxInxThexMist

99% of the guys in that video were paying a 'Compliment', although granted they didn't really look at all intelligent!

Honestly, whats wrong if I want to say to a nice girl 'Hi, how are you?' or 'wow, you are looking hot today'.


I consider anything personal, aggressive, or making a physical move toward me inappropriate.

Comments about boobs and butt are crossing the line, that's personal.

Questions about where I live, what I like, am I single, etc - are inappropriate.

But, I have no problem with the rest of it.



posted on Oct, 29 2014 @ 12:02 PM
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a reply to: Annee

I admit that some of the comments in the video are not creepy but, complimentary. Well, with the exception of the guys that walked with her.

That has only happened to me once and thankfully I was with my sister who can be a straight up fearless b word when she needs to be so, she handled it well for both of us. lol

It really does bother me when it happens to me with kids in tow. That to me is just creepy wrong.

When I'm with the hubby and it happens, it just baffles my mind really. It either takes a huge set of cajones or a lack of brain cells to do that. lol



posted on Oct, 29 2014 @ 02:18 PM
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There are some obviously creepy, weird, harassing guys in the video... at least half we're just "good morning" "Hi there" "how are you today" and yes... I'm sure they were because she's a good looking woman.... but do we really live in a world where people can't say hello to someone?


Like I said, a lot for sure were trying to pick her up... but some were just being friendly.



posted on Oct, 29 2014 @ 02:41 PM
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www.washingtonpost.com... few more links to the matter

www.collegenews.com... college news claims to have "debunked it" but il leave that up to members here as im not to informed as far as their credibility is



posted on Oct, 29 2014 @ 03:27 PM
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She just wants her shot at fame. There was hardly any harassment in that video. If you consider someone saying hello harassment, then lock yourself in your house and do us all a favor. I once drove through a bad area and was approached at a stop light by a prostitute. Did I portray all women just like her because of the incident...NO! She ran into a couple bad apple's in a bad area. Bet if she lived in and hung out in a better area she wouldn't have this problem. Sorry, to me she just comes off as rude and wanting to boost her already over-inflated ego.



posted on Oct, 29 2014 @ 04:09 PM
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a reply to: Domo1

Not so much anymore but I also don't go downtown very often. I or my 12 year old daughter, did get catcalled outside of a local movie theater in our car with my eldest and fiance in the vehicle about a month ago. It was incredibly awkward to say the least and I probably would've confronted the guy if he'd been walking himself just for my daughter's sake and in case it was towards my 12 year old (don't mess with mommy). To answer your question, I've had far worse than this happen in public places. I've had to be escorted by security out of a hair salon because some guy on the street spent 45 minutes ogling me through the street window and then had the gall to come in and ask some really weird questions. I've had men grab at my body parts or touch themselves. It's all pretty gross. Follow me for blocks, muttering things behind me and have been sexually harassed on mass transit and had that individual follow me after I got off. I've had this kind of stuff happen since I was 13 years old. I have agoraphobia these days and am really looking forward to growing old. I actually cried when I found out that I was going to have a girl because I didn't want her to have these kind of scary experiences.

This video is walking on the street light. If you think about it, she had two guys do some really sketchy behavior in that 10 hours. Just 10 hours. Not a month, not a week, 10 hours. How many times do you think the sketchy dude behavior might happen on a weekly basis in that context?



posted on Oct, 29 2014 @ 04:14 PM
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originally posted by: MagesticEsoteric
a reply to: Annee


It really does bother me when it happens to me with kids in tow. That to me is just creepy wrong.



Yes, I agree about kids. Never bothered me if I was with another man or my husband.

I used to walk a lot. So, have had all kinds of experiences.

Being friendly to those men not crossing the line is an asset. I've had those friendly guys (more than once) step in to protect me when an out of line man became too aggressive.

Discretion --- but, don't be an island.



posted on Oct, 29 2014 @ 04:38 PM
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originally posted by: Annee

originally posted by: MagesticEsoteric
a reply to: Annee


It really does bother me when it happens to me with kids in tow. That to me is just creepy wrong.


Being friendly to those men not crossing the line is an asset. I've had those friendly guys (more than once) step in to protect me when an out of line man became too aggressive.

Discretion --- but, don't be an island.


Ditto! I generally followed my gut and if somebody just came off as purely being friendly, I'd smile and say hi back. And yep, it did pay off for me as well as an intervention was pulled once and the guy I had just been nice to stepped right on in. Sometimes it's hard to tell. It's kind of like what my dad used to say, "Even Ted Bundy seemed like the nicest guy for the first 15 minutes".

Got a point there, Dad....



posted on Oct, 29 2014 @ 11:19 PM
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verbal street harassment?

dafuq is that?

most of what was in the video was people saying things like "hello", "good morning", "good evening", "have a nice day", "god bless you", etc....yeah, there was the occasional "hi beautiful"(is this really bad?), and "damn" in there, but honestly, what we were presented with were mainly greetings....when in the hell did saying hi to someone on the street become harassment?

if they were using crude language, and offering to do things to her, like a scene out of "jay and silent bob", yeah, that's pretty much harassment, but i didn't really see anything "end of the world" terrible...

methinks some people are just too damned touchy..



posted on Nov, 2 2014 @ 06:06 PM
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a reply to: Domo1

Just made a thread about it a few minutes ago, didn't realize you had one but I'll say here what I said there. I think this is just the way it goes when women control natural selection. While I don't particularly agree with unwanted advances, most are just generally saying hi and that's how it goes. Until there's a sudden change in the way men and women meet or a sexual revolution happens where women pursue men (yeah right) then this is to be expected. Men will always be the pursuer regardless of how it is done. Some are good with game, some are downright embarrassing, and some are well, misogynistic. However, it's still up to the woman if she decides to respond to this behavior. Throw a couple of GQ men in there with fat wallets and then suddenly "unwanted" becomes "attractive".



posted on Nov, 2 2014 @ 06:17 PM
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In a selfish way I am very happy with the video and the reaction to it, means I can now comfortably ignore anyone and everyone who i don't know in the street.

The social norm is going to be to mind your own business.

It's just not worth sticking your beak into anyone else affairs.

I'll look after myself and my friends and family.

If someone I don't know comes up to me asking for help they can go swivel.



posted on Nov, 2 2014 @ 06:32 PM
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Women of ATS do you get this kind of crap regularly?


Yup, ever since I hit puberty.

13 year old girl walking down the street and having grown men whistle, hoot, holler, make gyration motions, etc. At first you think it's cute and flattering and it gives you a bit of an ego boost... but the novelty wears off real quick and instead starts to piss you off and/or make you nervous.

It's not fun.



I figure NY is very different than most places with people being loud, obnoxious and rude.


NY is not unique to this.



Responding with a polite smile or 'hello' in return only invites them to further their advances. You just don't do it... most of us women have had to learn that lesson the hard way. Women learn to decipher the difference between a sincere friendly greeting and one that's not-so-sincere... but you can't always tell all the time, so the smart thing to do is to just play it safe by not responding at all.

When my husband and I first started dating, one of the first things he said to me was, "Holy crap, you turn a lot of heads". I then said to him, "And this surprises you ?!". He paused for a second and then said, "You're right it actually doesn't surprise me, men are pigs.... So what's it like living in a fish bowl every time you go out ?"

When a half-decent looking woman steps out into public, it's an automatic center stage position whether she wants it to be or not... it doesn't matter what she's wearing, she's going to be center stage.

100 acknowledgements of this woman's presence walking down the street, and even if only half of them were actual nefarious harassments, it's 50 too many. Anyone walking down the street having to force themselves to ignore 50 harassments has a tendency to piss them off... not to mention the creepy ones that would make any person nervous as all hell for their own safety and welfare.

Nobody should have to endure this crap for 40 years of their life, between the ages of puberty and 50+ years old.

Nobody.



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