posted on Oct, 28 2014 @ 07:26 PM
My youngest left home for college last year (I have three) . I struggle with the empty nest, though I think the hardest transition was with the first
leaving- brought up all kinds of identity issues... asking myself, what am I, if not a mother???
Having left my own country and family, I had really invested myself deeply in my own cellular family instead. All the bonding ritual and tradition we
did was very important to me.
I got deeper involved in activities which allowed me to use my maternal qualities- helping older people, doing tutoring work for kids, taking on
training projects for people and their animals... even my garden became something I nurtured and helped to grow. We can have many "children" in
Being very flexible on dates helps- even Christmas, we might celebrate on a different day this year again, because each kid has parents-in-law, as
well as grandparents, who want them to come celebrate with them too (and I will be working on Christmas too).
I also started a different job, in an area that is totally new to me, with lots to learn, so that takes up a lot of my concentration.
But like someone else- we got a dog that became our "baby". Though we've always had dogs when the kids were little, this one actually gets to get
in bed with us, or cuddle on the couch- things I never ever allowed a dog in the past!
I spend a lot of time taking him out on walks, and put a lot of energy into his base education so that he can go anywhere with me without a leash, and
obeys many different cues. He has been a godsend for this nest!
Just feeling your sadness with ya! Hang in there!