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originally posted by: chiefsmom
a reply to: ScientiaFortisDefendit
Telling yourself you deserve the best, has nothing to do with being a "Princess".
Everyone's best is different. Could be just a man that doesn't cheat on you. Could be just a spouse that values you, respects you. The fact is, you have to love, and know yourself, before you can make anyone else happy, or have them make you happy.
I don't want to get into a lot of detail but there's serial cheating and just a general lack of caring. I filed for divorce and we separated for a few months but he made promises to get me to come back.
originally posted by: JessicaRabbitTx
I bend over backwards to meet his needs and the only thing he's changed is that he hasn't cheated in the last few months as far as I know.
originally posted by: QuietSpeech
a reply to: JessicaRabbitTx
Sounds like you are reliant on him for your happiness, instead be happy and share that with others. No matter what other decisions you make regarding your relationship, creating your own happiness/zen state of mind will carry you through. Best of wishes in all that you do.
originally posted by: Akragon
I second that...
As I've said, never put up with a cheater... they will do it again
Why let someone have your heart when they do not treasure it...
Your advice is good for one's own benefit, but does not address the relationship dynamic.