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originally posted by: ketsuko
So, you know, you think about him and send over a plate of cookies or chip for gas money or offer to help when he's painting his house and stuff.
It's called being considerate because you never know when you might actually really need to lean on your neighbors.
originally posted by: LittleByLittle
The whole forced help to later on blackmail you to help is not kosher in my book.
Tell your neighbor that if he wants a help deal/transaction like in an economic system then tell him to make the deal before the implementation since you will not deal with him when he is forcing deals.
originally posted by: nugget1
You teach people how to treat you.
When he tries to 'guilt' you into doing things for him, instead of falling for it politely remind him that you didn't ask for his help and he didn't ask if you wanted it. If he HAD asked, you would have said 'no thank you'.
If he gets mad about it, then you would be safe to assume he may use doing things for others as a way to manipulate them into doing his bidding.
Going onto somebody elses property and doing things without their knowledge or permission isn't respecting them, or their right to privacy. Maybe he doesn't know any better. Maybe you can define your boundaries in clearer terms for him, so he knows where you stand.
originally posted by: Bovah
Maybe he was just annoyed at how crappy your "overgrown" hedges were looking. Maybe he was tired of the neighborhood looking like trash because you would rather take a nap during the middle of the day than take care of your yard.