The truth sets us free? We are all trapped until the person/s can accept their truth:

originally posted by: theabsolutetruth
a reply to: flammadraco

I made it clear. I said ''aspects of'' and referred to the collective gay scene, I didn't say ''all gays''.

I wouldn't consider gay people as necessarily bad though the collective gay scene I was told about was not only immoral but really terrible

I know you never said all gays, but as "mikegrouchy" has said perhaps the chaps you knew/know were trying to shock you. Where do you think the term "Drama Queen" came from.

As a gay chap myself, I am appalled by what some gay men get up to, but at the end of the day its none of my business, I am in a long term monogamous relationship with my partner who I had a civil ceremony with last year. Most of my gay friends are all in long term monogamous relationships. Its unfortunate that society does not see this side of gay culture and only sees some gay people on Pride Marches, and the gay scene. That being said, the gay community is just as wide and varied as our heterosexual counterparts.

I wait for the day when gay bars and clubs are no longer needed and people of any sexuality or persuasion can socialise in the same venues without fear of discrimination.

It is a perfect example of someone who hates their life and then spreads that hatred/resentment onto others.

It is incredible that once he came out of the closet, he was all happy and nice...so we are all relieved because he did take it our on us...

We didn't have a lot of intimacy when we were together because he was so nasty. He would criticize me, say horrible things and put me down. The truth is, he wanted to be with a man, not me and so he was mean to me.

When he would go away on business, he would bring me home, clothes as a gift. His Sister told me that he bought them for himself and she told him... that he shouldn't wear them because they were feminine and so he then gave them to me!
His Sister told me afterwards.

Things like that and some of his other behavior, confirmed my suspicions.

a reply to: flammadraco

There's no doubt their aims were attention and attempts at 'shocking' but really it was a bit sad that they were so detached from reality and couldn't see that others didn't consider them in the same 'diva' light they seen themselves and were more bored and annoyed at their constant declarations of how they considered themselves ''drama queens'' and their attention seeking ways.

They were a bit deluded I guess. Maybe it was their way of coping.

I know you never said all gays, but as "mikegrouchy" has said perhaps the chaps you knew/know were trying to shock you. Where do you think the term "Drama Queen" came from.

Guten Morgeng- That is why the termination of relationships is at an ALL time HIGH, which is actually a 'low'.. Instead of trying to find another One to "complete You", it would be less hassle to find One to share Your "completeness" with. Each 'Self' is already "complete" but because they look outward for validation, they find "others" horse manure staring back at them.. Always feeding the 'need/want' bug, never content.

Perhaps Frank can get Catholicism's dogma back on the leash?

Who let the dogma out? Who? Who? Who?

namaste

I hope He realizes while He is still "in Body" that He isn't headed to Hell/Hades/Detroit when it is 'time' I hope He discovers that He too, is an Eternal Being. A 'Spirit' having a 'human experience' ...

Edit: When reading 'You' I don't mean You, You. You know who You are, You. You, the "other Me"

a reply to: JimNasium

I love your posts, always so "deep" and meaningful.

a reply to: JimNasium

yes but his 'self' denied his own self.
maybe society caused him to deny being with a person that would complete himself?

a reply to: flammadraco

Thank You for both the kind words but more importantly Your 'time'.. Your greatest asset while in 'Body'..

namaste

a reply to: Thurisaz

And the lying, manipulating and ALL the time wasted spent trying to remember the lies... Folks like that CAN'T be happy and they will do whatever to sabotage any sliver of 'happy'.

A majority of 'cross dressers' self describe as 'straight' So the fact that He went as far as buying Women's clothing is interesting.. (no white after Labor Day..)

I read where You deemed it 'incredible' how 'happy' He was when He finally admitted to HimSelf. As 'happy' so when he hits a bump in the road that it would be construed as 'Manic'?

You(rs) now have the "power" and I don't mean that You can ridicule or blackmail Him, but that Y'all KNOW His 'biggest secret' and His past history for His propensity to be "non-positive"..

I'd opine that both You and Your kids are not only stronger from the whole situation but are also more empathetic to other's "issues", not as a 'comparative' because I'd opine Y'all gave up 'judging' a few years into it?

And because now that You KNOW 'The Truth' that will NEVER change, that is what makes it 'true'.. It isn't "good" or "bad" it just 'is'..

We, each Self in 'body', is already "complete". It is when the Self detects a 'lack/need' is usually when they look outside of the 'Self'...

namaste

Thumbnail: Up to the point of discovery, He was insufficient to the old adage "To thine own Self be true..."

Compassion is The Truth and The Truth sets you Free.

Without Compassion, he would not have the strength to come out. Someone, somehow, gave him strength to be himself instead of living in spiritual bondage not being able to tell the truth of who he is.

And you are a very strong woman for putting up with all of that.

a reply to: Thurisaz

Can you still see that we exist in a society controlled by "definitions" and "labels" - how can a simple word have such an impact on one's life?

It is amazing when you think about it.

a reply to: Thurisaz

Hi,

I have a lot of respect for your threads/posts and was saddened by your experience. If my maths is right you are 39? You will have many years ahead with another man when you are ready to re-enter a relationship.

may blessings flow to you