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originally posted by: VoidHawk
A poster above mentioned the word "Lazy"
I think thats partly the problem, it takes time and effort to explain to a small child about bad behaviour but most parents these days dont have the time, they're too busy recovering from their slave job, so its easier for them to give the child a smack.
I think the main cause of hitting children is because the parents were smacked when they were children.
A child does not need to be smacked, or even placed on a naughty spot, they just need parents who understand them!
originally posted by: XTexan
There is a fine line here, currently I agree that that spanking is not right for my child. But he is young and so its an easy decision for my family. But the question for me is, when to use spanking? Its such a delicate balance, but I believe your child should know that physical discipline can and will be used against them.
Poor example: Your 6-8 year old child is acting "disorderly" and talks back to you when you attempt to address their behavior, you calmly put them in timeout. Problem solved... at home.
What happens if the the next day the child is approached by a police officer and he acts the same way? Some LEOs will act rationally, some will not. Plenty of threads on here of children that age being tased or worse.
How exactly do you teach your child that out in the real world improper behavior can a will result in physical violence being used against them if they have never experienced physical discipline at home by you?
originally posted by: GrantedBail
I am not going to respond to you anymore. Clearly you have issues that haven't been addressed. I wish you the best of luck in your recovery.
a reply to: OptimusCrime
originally posted by: OptimusCrime
My mom beat my butt, and by butt I mean my actual butt, when I did something wrong.
originally posted by: OptimusCrime
originally posted by: Briles1207
a reply to: OptimusCrime
Well that's my point, If your child is hitting other kids, surely that stems from that child being struck by their parent? So you cant beat them to tell them beating is wrong as it was your fault in the first place ha-ha.
Its a minefield granted.
Also, most parenting is passed down the generations so I imagine its pretty difficult to break the cycle.
We have a little circular mat in our house. The naughty spot. Sounds lame. But what's amazing is because we used it from such a young age, no matter how much our 2 year old cries and shouts and moans during a tantrum, he will not move from that spot. (in the beginning we just kept putting him on it, even if it was 50 times in a row) until he realised that he had to stay on it for 3 mins (a long time in his world lol)
Now we just say "Do that again and you're on the naughty spot".
Whats even better is sometimes if he knows hes done something he shouldn't he goes and sits on it without us saying anything haha!
See, it doesn't prove the child is being struck. More kids hit other kids because they don't understand hitting is bad. When they get hit for hitting, they know it's bad.
originally posted by: OptimusCrime
originally posted by: GrantedBail
I appreciate your opinion. I respectfully disagree. Thank you for your reply.
a reply to: OptimusCrime
It sounds to me you were beat pretty bad, more extreme than myself. Were you bad?