I'll try to present this as fairly as I can, but I'm honestly at the end of my rope.
For 3 years, I've been driving back and forth to Texas from Illinois, quite often. Not for work, not for fun, just to be what I basically think of as
taxi service. At first, I thought I was doing the right thing and still do. But lately, I feel like I'm being taken advantage of. All of my close
family lives in Texas now. My oldest son, my sister, my nephew and his wife and kids, so I got to see them pretty often and thought of it as a perk.
After my Dad died almost 10 years ago, My Mom got in the habit of spending Winter there and came back home to Kentucky in the Spring. She is 72 and in
very good health, one of those tough ol' country gals that seems to get tougher with age.Very independent, still drives and mows her own yard [ almost
5 acres ] She says she could make the drive herself, but just feels better if I take her and come get her when she wants to come back. The problem is,
they feel that it's ok to expect me down there when they
want me there. She and my sister get on each others nerves after a while and the
inevitable argument happens. Now, both are calling me [ as usual ] complaining about the other and I'm hearing from my sister how unreasonable my Mom
is ..and from my Mom, I'm hearing how unreasonable my sister is. Guess who's caught in the middle? Yep. ME.
Now, I've been disabled for several years and it's tough for me to make that drive. I take what some would consider heavy narcotics for pain [ taken
them for years, so they don't effect me any more than Tylenol effects you ]and 12 hours in a car is pure torture on my back, legs and hips, so I stop
often, which turns a 12 hour drive into a 14 hour drive. I usually leave at 2:00 am, just to try to beat the worst of the Dallas/Fort Worth traffic
jams in the afternoon. Those from D/FW can testify to the nightmare of that area around 5:00 - 8:00 pm. It seems like they want me there at the most
times. I took her down in January. In March she wanted me to come get her. March 8 is my son's birthday and it was his 16th, an
important year in a young man's life, so I told them they would have to wait till the week after his birthday. That plan was not well received. In
June she wanted to go back for the birth of my nephew's 2nd child. Back we went. NOW, she and my sister are at it again and she's ready to come back.
My sister called and actually said "Come get her now or she'll be living on the street".
I have a family of my own to take care of and it seems they expect me to put that aside to be a taxi service. My daughter's birthday is Sept 11th and
she made me promise to be back by then, which meant another fast turnaround trip. Drive down today, Monday, rest one day, then back on the road early
Wed morning, drive my Mom to Kentucky, then another 3 1/2 hours to my house. This time, I had actually left at 2:30 this morning, got about an hour
away and said "No, F**k this" and turned around and came back home. I've had it. I've tried to be a good son. I've tried to be a good brother. What I
won't be any longer is a taxi.
Let me be clear, None
of them have ever driven here to visit. None
of them have ever come to get her or taken her back to Kentucky.
Always me. My sister has a huge house, pool, hot tub, game room with a pool table, cinema room with soft leather recliners and a wall size TV, so it
felt like staying in a nice hotel, without the expense. A 2 day mini vacation. Maybe this is mostly my fault for starting it to begin with, but I
worry about my Mom traveling by herself and would agree to take her. Now, it's just taken for granted that I will come when called. It's not just
this. For the last 2 years, since I don't work, they expect me to drop whatever I'm doing and come down to visit, just because they want me to. At any
given moment, the phone may ring and my sister say " You're not doing anything, come down for a week". Uh yeah, I am
doing something. I'm
taking care of a house, getting my kids up and ready for school, cooking meals, doing laundry, taking care of pets, Taking Care Of My Family
I don't want to be an ass about it, but I'm just fed up of being expected to jump when called. So, am I being selfish?
edit on 8-9-2014 by
DAVID64 because: correction