posted on Aug, 27 2014 @ 01:11 AM
What I have come to think is that one only has power over you if you acknowledge it.
I have been living in a country with radically different values than the one I grew up in, and one of the things I observe is the power of women is
much much greater.
-And yet.... if you look at the statistics, you wouldn't see it. There's a much greater number of males in "official" roles of power, in business,
To see the huge power the women have, you'd have to turn away from those, and delve into the daily personal lives of the people here! To see that-
home and family is more important to them than business or government.
In recent threads, it was mentioned that in some of these more "socialist" countries, all people get mandatory paid vacation from work (six weeks in
this one). They also work shorter hours (35 a week). It is considered essential that people spend time with their family and friends at home, in order
to be productive employees.
As an american, who has a tendancy to dedicate all my energy to work and take it very seriously, this seems lazy to me at times.
It was also posted that a study showed people from Socialist or Communist countries are more likely to cheat. This country is not Communist nor
Socialist exactly, but it has more socialist type of values on a continuum type of measure, and I agreed- yes they DO cheat more. They don't see the
"official" power as being so all powerful. If you are not a sympathetic and caring person, you will get cheated- doesn't matter whether you are the
boss or not. Be a distant and cold researcher running a game, they won't hesitate to cheat you- you didn't spend time talking laughing, sharing
yourself with them, getting to know them first!
As an american, I get irritated at times with this, they seem disrespectful of hierarchy and rules.
Every one of my reactions makes clear to me my own bias towards male power.
Because the home is the Womans castle- she runs everything, she does the paperwork (bill paying, budget planning), she decides what they will eat and
when, where they will go on vacation, or what kind of social events they will take part in.
Not only for the children, but for the husband.
Employees need to go home to get some guidance and direction from their women, in order to be healthy, happy, balanced workers. That is their idea.
Women teach their families-
-it is not official position you need to respect- we are all equal essentially- it is their behavior and empathy towards other humans. Cooperate with
the kind person, don't cooperate with the selfish or insensitive. Reward ethics and morals, not greed or egoism. No matter what kind of role they
play in society.
-Take care of your body, it is what carries your mind. Give it the rest, food, water, affection and social bonding, and interdependance that is
necessary for it to be an effective vehicle BEFORE you make it go to work hard.
These are the common maternal, feminine values that reflect the power of women in this society. They are different from the male values upon facing
challenge and difficulty, being independant, competition for official roles of power, and hierarchy.
As long as the women are looking longingly at the roles of official power outside the home, and respecting them and their rules and dictates, they
remain far from their own power, and prisoner to sexism. But it is their OWN sexism. It is their own failure to recognize female power and abilities
On this site, people often ponder- why is it that Americans are such sheep??? Why don't they protest more often?
Of course, the answers are complex, but one aspect is this hyper valuation on the masculine.
A society that encourages one to work themselves to exhaustion, for financial reward, then blow off all that tension on the weekend with excessive
consumption of alcohol and junk food (work hard, play hard), makes for bodies that are not in optimum condition, and minds that are out of focus.
A society that pushes forward extreme independance creates bodies that are lacking in affective needs and time to "lean" on another and rest-
becoming stressed and insensitive.
A society that has religions which teach the body is inferior, the mind superior..... God is a HE, and the enlightened rejects the "lower" drives
and needs of their physical shell, to "ascend" to higher dimensions......that society makes people who lose touch with their physical nature, Mother
earth, and the experience of other.
If you are feeling enslaved or dominated, it might be useful to analyze whether it is not you enslaving yourself first.