a reply to: mwood
Here's what I would do in that kind of a situation:
1. Before even having the paperwork, sit them down, and talk to them about why you are starting to create the lease. Make sure you and the wife talk
about it beforehand, so that you both can affirm why; last thing you want is to already be divided when talking to them.
2. Be civil (IE: No name calling). If they say something offensive, try to use their words against them:
They: "I refuse to let some prick control my life; I'm a vet, and I control my life"
You: "While I commend you for your service in the war, remember, this prick is the one letting you live there. You always have the right to move out,
and explore other properties more suitable to your lifestyle".
3. Write up the lease, and tell them in some form (email, call, text) that they have X number of days to sign it; if they don't, then it'll be up to
you how you want to handle the situation. Remember, if you don't act on it, they will keep doing stuff because they know you won't do anything.
Personally, I'd remind them that this prick (me, in this case) owns the deed to the property, and that I have the final say over what goes on. I'd
also leave an anonymous bumpersticker on their door while they are away, reminding them to "be nice to your (their) kids, because your (their) kids
will choose their nursing home".
I highly advise you to not do as I do, as there are some bridges that you don't want to burn. If you kick them out, there's a good chance your
in-laws will stop talking to your wife altogether; My Grampa died with a grudge, and it left a hole in my parent's heart because he refused to talk
to either of them.