posted on Aug, 10 2014 @ 09:51 AM
A good friend will try to talk to their friend rationally if they see them going in the wrong direction. Some people do not listen though, you do not
have to abandon the friendship. Many people sit by and let their friends destroy their lives, not telling them how they feel about what they are
doing. People get caught up in things, following in the footsteps of others that they have learned to admire, sometimes they are following the wrong
A good friend is not someone who will abandon their friend if they say something they don't agree with. A good friend will say no sometimes if they
don't want to do something that will get them and their friend in trouble. If you just agree with your friend and then talk behind their back to
others, are you a true friend. I will try to talk reason to my friends, but do not get pushy or mad. It seems that they remember your trying to tell
them that their direction was wrong and after thinking about it after you are gone, they do come to the conclusion you are right. But they do not
tell you they erred usually, they just say they changed their mind. This helps to preserve their dignity, something that is important. Don't rub it
in, drop the subject, someday they will return the favor when you are going in the wrong direction.
When I was brought up, there was this saying, you have to learn by your mistakes. This is true to a certain point, you have to guide the young and
not try to break their spirit. We are responsible for our actions after we are out of that hormone driven age, and sometimes earlier if the problem
is big. The law knows of the teenagers desires and gullibility. I'm getting off topic with this now.
So finding true friends is good, there will also be fair weather friends, it is important to identify these. A friend does not try to do things that
will get you in trouble, they try to steer you onto an honest path so that you do not wind up sitting in the slammer. Now, I had friends that were
misguided, they got in trouble when I was not around, but while they were hanging out with me, they were not getting in trouble much. They were and
are good friends to me. I could not keep them out of trouble when I was not around, just like I influenced them to not get in trouble, others they
knew influenced them to get in trouble. But that is life.
We can't use Ad Hominum to judge people, some people just can't say no and want to be liked by others, even others that will get them in trouble.
My father told me you are who you hang out with...he was wrong. He wasn't wrong very often, and the reason he was wrong is that I figured out how to
work with this, understanding most kids actually want to be accepted by others. Learning and evaluating what he said gave me an advantage and the
ability to say no. It gave me the confidence to challenge the thinking of my friends when they wanted to do something wrong and to try to alter their
perception. Some people cannot be fixed though. That is life.
Sorry if I got off topi c OP.