a reply to: zackli
In a general way, I tell the truth.
But the truth, for me, is that my opinion is not that important, and I don't expect them to invest a lot in it.
If a friend asks me what I think of a new top, for example, and I don't like it, I would say,
"It is not my style. As you know already, I like things more (this or that). But that is MY personal style! What's important is that YOU have your
own personal taste and style, and that you feel good in it! In the end, what makes or breaks a look is how the person carries it- if you feel awesome,
you look awesome, and your clothes just make up part of that picture!"
That is truly what I feel is the truth.
In some rare cases, I would spin it a different way, perhaps leaving out a part of the truth. I know one woman who projects some weird sort of
authoritarian view on me, so that she places unusual emphasis on everything I say.
She is quick to twist and misinterpret things as a judgement or criticism, no matter what I do. In her case I would limit it to something like,
"Well, it looks good with those pants, and definately goes with the shoes! They are exactly the same color, aren't they? What luck to find a top and
shoes exactly the same tone of blue!!!"
I may leave out that I don't personally like the shoes anymore than the top, but I haven't lied exactly. Sometimes you have to consider the feelings
of the individual as more important than your stupid personal opinion.