posted on Dec, 16 2004 @ 12:00 PM
Originally posted by specialasianX
I think part of the problem is she has had a string of long term relationships, and i've got a huge rope of short term ones...
I think she would like some time to be single and is a little concerned about my lack of commitment history... which i can understand, but she is
different to the other chicks i've been with, and i needto find a way to show her that i'm willing to commit in this case...
Ohh now I see the problem. I was under the impression that she was the short-termer and you the long-termer. I apologize for that. Well, a friend of
mine seems to have been going through a very similar situation.
His gf broke up with him (this isn't the first time) because she didn't trust him. He is head over heels for her and wants nothing more than to be
with her and make her happy. However, he has a history of being a bit of a womanizer,..
She has trouble believing he can be good to her, when it is so easy for him to have frivolous relationships with other women when they were not a
couple, but that isn't the case. I can't blame her. She is afraid of getting hurt.
Sounds a little like an underlying possibility in your story (not to say its the same, but if there is a trust issue). Perhaps, this lady is more
commitmaphobic of committing to a commitmaphobe, than actually being a commitmaphobe herself.
I recommend, keeping the dialogue open as you have done, and let her know that you can be serious and can be trusted. When time is right, maybe ask
her what it is she needs. How you can let her see that you respect and appreciate her. The key to women is appreciation/consideration/respect. When
and if you 2 are ready to be a couple, there should be no doubts on either party.
glad to hear you are happier with the situation