So if you think I am right where "they" want me to be, what is your secret? How do you not end up getting down about it all? I can't seem to help
it. Or can I?
I have been where you are now, my secret is, as you will initially find, counter-intuitive.
The 'secret' is to reasonably accept the loss you feel.
This goes directly against your primal programming which by default is programmed through evolutionary experiences of all the generations that have
come before you to-reject loss. This is why the want of control is so appealing to so many, control rejects loss, well in the short term anyway.
The other part of the secret is to realize that in most instances loss must first occur before gain can exist.
Our present culture conditions us to fixate on gain while denying the loss that must be caused, then when the loss we justifiably cause becomes so
overwhelming we can no longer avoid it, ignore it, deny it, or distract ourselves from it
our subconscious tries to protect us from instigating fixating thoughts, this can be anything from a feeling of constant exhaustion to suicide.
Why accept loss? The reasonable acceptance of loss empowers your self-conscious mind to enable it to disengage these protective feelings and thoughts.
It's counter intuitive yet suicide is a justified protective mechanism of the subconscious mind, of course few will tell you this.
Our reality is based on contradictions, loss and gain must both exist for existence to exist, yin and yang, of course accepting the truth of this is
much more difficult, than submitting to the lies we are continually fed.
Hang in there, go look at some footage on utube of a volcano in an ocean and realize from this destructive occurrence emerges islands that support and
encourage new forms of life.
As they say, this too shall pass.
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