I personally don't assume anything. I interact. Once, I was wearing a Bleach T-Shirt
walking into a grocery store while a group of 3 teens were walking out, and one of them said to me out of the blue, "Sir, I have that same shirt at
home." We both smiled, because we understood the content, and the mentality behind wearing such a shirt, and he respected me for that. Honestly, I
didn't think teenagers used that word anymore, but my faith was restored. Of course, it was my own then 15 year old son that I was watching Bleach
anime with on YouTube and TV. Hell, there were several series we followed, not only because I knew enough to be interested in what he was interested
in, but he was the scoop on what was trending, and that stuff actually had a deeper story line than a simple anime feature. Most parents don't pay
attention to what their kids like, and therefore alienate them. He taught me how to play Yu-Gi-Oh
when he was
about 12, and even though I'd cream him after I understood the game, he'd come back with an even more balanced deck and exact his revenge. He's 22
now, in university, and started a Yu-Gi-Oh team on campus. I still have my own deck, but doubt I would last more than a few rounds. The cards
evolved, while I haven't. Meh, he knows that, and only wants an opportunity down the road for another duel. He'll easily bring me up to speed.
The point I'd like to make is that it is mostly the young males that engender new roles to follow, and sadly enough, the young females are enamoured
by whatever role the newest generation provides. If parents teach the boys how to treat the girls properly, society wouldn't have the issues it
does. Society is still male oriented, with males dictacting the lead, and women following suit. It's the way it's been for centuries.
Then, to be fair, I have to add in my 18 year old daughter (on August 2nd). She's been the hormonal demon spawn from hell. She got her period at
11, sex at 13, license at 16, and is now a stable being mostly. Girls are so much harder to raise than boys. Throughout it all, she never had a
problem communicating her feelings, never afraid to cry from her mistakes when chastised, and has no problem telling me how she feels. After she got
her first period, I sat her down and had the "birds and bees" talk with her, and drew out diagrams of the female reproductive system, the male
reproductive system, and how she can get pregnant now that she was fertile. I told her to always use a condom, and that if she needed, I would buy
them for her. I knew then that her hormones would soon be raging, and that "peer pressure" from both the boys, as well as her female peers, would
assault her, so I armed her with information.
She got busted, at 13, for having sex, finding out later she skipped school. The evidence? A used condom in her trashcan in her room. Stupid kids
That's a matter of opinion, actually, because out of the 5 girls in her graduating class that WERE pregnant at graduation time, she was not one of
them. I couldn't keep her from having sex, because all the teenage girls are, and if you think they are not, ask your own teenage daughter what a
"rainbow party" is. Teenage sex in the school systems is rampant, and out of control, thanks to a whole plethora of reasons. Don't be fooled
Is it just the horny boys wanting to get laid? Can we cast all the blame there? Nope. It's these devilish girls as well, with no guidance,
listening to TV, social media, their peers, their txt messages, and the pressure to have a "boyfriend" or not be "cool". Competition to have
"status" for young females is absurdly demanding in today's world, and you'd be a fool not to believe otherwise.
Teenagers are not a unique species. They are young humans, as we once were, but with a million more demands on them due to the advent of internet,
and access to instant communication via whatever means. Peer pressure, not common sense, dictates their actions overall.
I am not left unscathed in my parenting. But so it is.