originally posted by: ATODASO
there's the same lazy fair attitude toward infidelity and the like, right? it's weird that being strong enough to do the right thing even if it's not
in your immediate interests is marked off as "immaturity". but then, i'm canadian.
Um, yeah, you could say that... it seems more to me like being a bit more realistic? Like they percieve that, people cheat sometimes, whether you
condemn it or not- so you might as well as acknowledge it openly and face it.
I've observed that the actual statistics on infidelity are not actually higher over though- people just admit it easier.
When I had my own business, and respected all the laws and regulations to the letter, I was pissed off to find out that when they calculate taxes, for
example, they automatically factor in a minimum amount of cheating or lying you must be doing. I wasn't, so of course that rubbed my pride the wrong
way. On roads, getting a speed ticket can only happen at a certain level above the speed limit- in other words, it is not expected that you respect it
to the letter- it is an indication, and you are expected to not go too far above it. A bit is allowed.
It is like they leave a leeway for the individual to use some common sense of their own, beyond the official laws.
Authorities don't consider their job as doing all the thinking for you- hence the reference to maturity.
Though I find that it more leaves room for the respect of peer pressure- the unofficial, illegitamate power of the collective. People respect more
what is socially accepted or not, more than the official rules.
Thus, you get a belief in conformism.
Like drinking is socially accepted, but being drunk is not. The threat of your community condemnation is enough to keep people from drinking too much.
That of course doesn't work in a society which nurtures peoples ability to not care what others think.
In short, i often say, the females have more power here- it is the women of the village that determine what is socially acceptable behavior or not,
they are in charge of ethics. That is the basis of women getting together to gossip- it is like an unofficial ethics commision, and they decide what
they will agree upon enforcing in their community.
In general, women being the makers of humans, they will value the human body and collective more than material objects, which men are more makers of,
and individual power.
But that is an unofficial power that foreigners will have more difficulty seeing.
It is also why I tend to consider socialism and communism as "matriarchial systems", in contrast to paternal individualist and capitalist systems.
Your mama teaches you what is right to do, not your government.
edit on 23-7-2014 by Bluesma because: (no reason given)