posted on Jul, 22 2014 @ 07:32 AM
I just was having thoughts about the friends I cherish most.
Some of them are characters that are not unanimously appreciated by others. It seems I like weird people.
I thought about my best friend, who I love deeply, and yet many people don't connect well with her. Everything I like most about her, many others are
put off by. I guess that must say something about me.
I thought of the qualities I especially appreciate:
I can always count on her to tell me what she really thinks.
Even if it is different from mine, or even a complaint about me, she will speak it right away, and in a mature neutral way- not telling me what I
should do or be differently, but taking full responsibility for her own thoughts, reactions and emotions. No attachment to outcome.
I like to make slightly disparaging comments at times, on things about myself that I consider a fault or a weakness- I don't take ti seriously that I
have faults or weakness, no one is perfect, and all is process. But I consider it important to be honest with myself about them, and to approach them
with lightness and humor.
She never ever will respond with a gush of silly compliments to that. She sits silently and listens, or laughs with me. God, I want to hug her when
she does that! I hate when people answer with a bunch of ego stroking, making me feel like sh*t, as if they thought I was fishing for compliments and
need to tell me how much better (or pretty, or smart, or whatever) I am than themself. I have no wish to make anyone feel that way and it hurts that
they assume I would take pleasure in that.
Shes's independant and responsible, and that makes me feel like our time together, when we choose to help each other or accompany each other, isn't
motivated by need, that any other woman could fill, but by just a joyful appreciation of the individual I am. We both know we could and often do, do
things alone. This is a choice, not an obligation.
Some people find her level of self discipline, focus on responsibility, and straight-forwardness a bit too serious and intimidating. It seems strange
to me, because I know she is capable of huge belly laughs, and never ever expects anyone else to conform to her own standards for herself. But I guess
you have to be one to know one!
What do you especially love in your friends? What are the qualities that you appreciate the most?
I find it interesting how different we can be on those points...