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originally posted by: TzarChasm
forgive, but never forget. let the anger go without losing the lesson.
originally posted by: ~Lucidity
Forgiving kind of implies forgetting. Otherwise you haven't really let anything go.
originally posted by: ~Lucidity
forgive, but never forget. let the anger go without losing the lesson.
boi, you just have to let it go, or it'll eat you up from the inside out"
To forgive, you can see what happened and still you do not feel the anger for it. Grudges have memories and anger. Forgiveness has memories and no anger. That's why it's hard to do.
originally posted by: FlyersFan
No, it means you don't hold anger towards the person for what they did.
You don't have to be buddies. If in the experience you learned that they
can't be trusted, then why would you be buddies? You wouldn't.
It's all about holding the anger.
i read somewhere that maturity is when someone hurts you and you try to understand why instead of hurting them back.
originally posted by: Char-Lee
a reply to: TzarChasm
i read somewhere that maturity is when someone hurts you and you try to understand why instead of hurting them back.
I feel that this is a trap you don't want to fall into. You ask yourself WHY... why did they do this and you try and try and try to understand.
This consumes you and there are no answers as more often than not the person will never even try to explain WHY they did what they did or said what they said.
originally posted by: ~Lucidity
originally posted by: TzarChasm
forgive, but never forget. let the anger go without losing the lesson.
What does forgive really mean though?
Like, hey, we're pals again? That's kind of fake, and there's too much fake in this world.
Also, forgiving kind of implies forgetting. Otherwise you haven't really let anything go. Otherwise, what's the point of it?
originally posted by: Char-Lee
a reply to: 12m8keall2c
boi, you just have to let it go, or it'll eat you up from the inside out"
Personally I have never felt hate for anyone I have known no matter what they have done, instead my heart aches because they valued me so little as to betray or hurt me so deeply.
originally posted by: Stormdancer777
And I would like to take this opportunity to once again apologize to those I have offend or made snarky comments to, I do pray that prayer ever night, forgive me as I forgive others.
I'm only human, but I never set out to intentionally hurt anyone.
originally posted by: Obsidian_Butterfly
a reply to: TzarChasm
I like this idea. BUT I also feel, sometimes the degree to which one has offended/disrespected/betrayed can only be treated with an a$$whooping and then we can all move on.