posted on Jul, 19 2014 @ 04:59 PM
originally posted by: AutumnWitch657
Sorry but to me purity has nothing to do with having sex or not having sex and has everything to do with my heartfelt feelings towards my prospective
mate. Why does a woman have to be " pure" while men do not? This whole thing doesn't make sense to me. It harkens back to when women were chattel
and property of the male. When they hung the bloody sheet out the bedroom window the morning after to prove to the whole community that she belonged
to only him.
What happens if your husband turns out to be very bad at sex. You don't know until it's too late. Also what about if your husband dies or you get
divorced (probably because he can't get you off) and you want to get married again. You can't grow back a hyman. Isn't true love for your second
husband pure enough.? Anyway I promise you your prospective husband is probably not "saving" himself for his wedding night.
Lastly the first time hurts. Who wants pain and fear to be what they remember most about their wedding day?
I agree with you on many aspects. People take purity and turn it into it's own religion, I feel.
On a religious side, even Jesus said that in Heaven, there is no marriage, when asked about the woman who married more then once.
King David, had thousands of wives.
I also agree with the aspect you made about "horrible lovers". If it's your first time, for both the male and female. It's going to be quite
awkward, and probably very un-amazing. Even if it's done patiently, and with care, there is still going to be pain for the female, the first time.
I've read things about "marriage" being something the Catholic church came up with, as a means of control for the unwashed masses during the ending
of the European Dark ages.
Now our government uses that as a method for keeping track of property and taxation. (btw, I am married, just celebrated 9 years the other day).
In my opinion, sex is fine and dandy, just make sure that if your going to engage in it, that it's safe, and with someone where there is a mutual
emotional bond.. Bumping uglies with strangers, is both lacking an emotional attachment, and will lack in sexual fulfillment. (It also takes time to
learn another person's body, and what gives them the most pleasure.. so if he or she is not going to take the time to learn, they're being selfish
and it will ultimately lead to being dis-satisfaction.)
I applaud you for being selective. Just make sure it's worth it when you decide to change things.