a reply to: Annee
okay, it's not a big deal.
Not a response to you now, just something I was thinking about, stimulated by this discussion, and I cam eback here to write about it-
I have been in a few jobs that were more masculine oriented- or at least from the exterior appearences.
I was a cosmetologist, and though there are more females in that career choice, the most well known and successful ons are men. I used to do a lot of
competition and modeling, and learned that the stylists who were up on the podiums strutting and talkign about their self and their personalized style
or technique actually had at least one, if not a team of, women doing the actual work for them. In many cases, the man did not even give them any real
direction- he said do your own thing. -And then he'd get up on the stage and take credit for it.
Right now, I am having an experience in a kitchen, in which ALL of the cooks are male, and ALL of the commis (aides, not much more than dishwashers)
I cannot count how many times now I have had the cooks asking me how to do this or that, how long should this be cooked, what ingredients would be
best... sometimes I have to stop a cook I am passing by and show him how to do something basic like folding a batter or kneeding bread.
One day in discussion, the guys found out I make my own crusts and pastrys at home for my family. They said they buy premade ones at home. I was
aghast- I asked how could that be, when you make them yourself here? You know how to do it!
They replied, yes, but, I just follow the directions I am given, and it is so hard. I don't want to bother struggling like that at home.
I have been doing these tasks daily for more than twenty years. They are automatic skills for me (and apparently, for some of the other women too).
YET- we have a lower position, are paid less, and must submit to the authority of these men. We have more experience in this area and are better at
In the world of horsemanship, and especially in the working horse type of circles (work with cows) I saw the same thing. Went to train by a guy that
his name plastered everywhere only to find out he was somewhat of a drunken idiot with barely any skills- his wife, however, was the most awesome
rider, the best roper there out of all the men, and kept that to herself.
WHY do so many women agree to let the guys seek recognition in the society, even for their own work?
I interrogated myself and found that I just don't give a f*ck about being a celebrity, or getting that recognition. I don't feel I need it. My husband
does. He wants his name to live on past his body, for some reason- he wants his name to be known by strangers after he dies. Go figure. Whatever.
I guess I feel I will live on through my children, I have achieved immortality already. When I cook for them, or heal their physical or emotional
wounds, I am doing so for myself as well as them.
I guess what I pull from this is that it is a highly masculine culture which considers official roles as meaningful- the face on the box is not
necessarily representative of the contents. A lot of women know this, through direct experience, some others just don't seem to want to admit it, and
they want to be that face on the box. As if it is meaningful. Cult of personality. I am not a feminist because I don't buy into that. I am not
impressed by the appearences. I see them as illusions.
edit on 31-7-2014 by Bluesma because: (no reason given)