a reply to: AnnieWolf19
I'm a dude, and as a rocker-ish youth obviously i favoured a long haired look.....
However baldness runs in the chaps in my family - my dad was bald by about 20 years old, and when i reached 15 i could tell it was happening to me
too, and it would have been obvious to others by about 18.
Inspite of the fact that i was expecting it, it was not something i was comfy with at all and it really challenged my self image and esteem. I
continued to grow my hair, and much became matted and dreadlocked in spite of it receding, and i often wore a "tam" - a Rastafari style woollen
Now i was happy with how all that looked, but was embarrassed by the baldness and was rarely seen without a hat for the next few years which was
pretty bloody awkward and it represented a real chink in my self esteem and personal freedom too. Funny thing is, no one else gave a fig about
whether i was balding or not, and just thought i should stop being so hung up about it. Trouble for me was it did not fit with my personal (and
pretty immature) aspiration to be seen by others as some long haired hippy-crusty-raver type - silly as that's what i was anyway, it's what i did.
At 21 there was pretty much no hair left on the top of my head and i just thought screw it, shaved the lot off and binned the hat - i felt liberated
I think for young/teen-aged men at least the problem is that we feel we wont be seen as cool, attractive and virile etc; but the truth is that there
is nothing more cool attractive than being self assured and comfortable in your own skin and caring not one bit for what a detractor may think as you
know it's just BS - and who in their right mind cares about BS, right?
I suppose my own quite normal teen-aged insecurities were the issue; and i did go bald, quickly and younger than most but straight after going "skin"
i had no trouble getting the attentions "etc" of attractive women and, well, i really cant complain on that score!
Now for women the issue must be so massively magnified because of society's expectations and it must be really hard for many to admit that they suffer
from baldness, and to be in public without a wig or some kind of head-dress. The herd can be an ass after all and people do stare and whisper which
must be a real challenge... But i've known a very beautiful young women who had Alopecia and i believe that she struggled to talk about it for a few
years and had related issues of depression - she wore a wig (and looked fabulous too) and when i knew her was able to talk openly and proudly about
So that's my two pence worth - i'm proudly bald and frankly would not have a full head of hair if given the choice now, i love my shiny bonce and it's
part of who i am. In fact i kinda look down on chaps who spend a lot of time on their hair and talk hair style. FFS it's just not manly
But anyway, i wish you well. Be proud of yourself and what ever choices you make in your life and about your head; and if someone is critical or
stares at you, well they are just an ass with a small narrow life and they are deserving of our pity for that reason, sad individuals that they are
edit on 12-7-2014 by skalla because: typos, clarity