posted on Jul, 10 2014 @ 07:37 PM
a reply to: Taupin Desciple
Hey Taupin Desciple...
What you say about passing lessons on to ones children is a wonderful thought in theory, but in practice it falls apart. The reason for this, is that
without making their own mistakes, even carbon copies of ones that a parent has made, a child does not learn anything worth knowing.
All the most important learning a child does, or a human does, for that matter, is based on trial and error. If all there is, is a trial, then no
conclusion can be drawn which has value. There must be error in order to give meaning to the trial, and only by collating the results of successive
experimentation can anything be learned in a way which sticks.
This is how kids learn to walk, and learn to talk like their parents. Yes, children learn to speak and walk by watching the example of their parents,
but they learn to do it for themselves by experimentation. Babies and children are basically little scientists, probing and learning about the limits
of their physical and intellectual existence. Later, when the child reaches puberty, they begin learning more about the complexities of emotional life
in a more serious fashion, and even here the trial and error process of learning is still in evidence.
It is a process which never ends, to be sure, but to say that trying to teach a child not to make the same errors as its parent is a sensible way
forward is not supported by evidence. All evidence suggests that in all but the most extreme cases, it is the freedom to err on occasion, and learn
from that error, which most thoroughly informs a young person of their limitations, and that is a lesson which cannot be replaced by a stern talking
to now and again.
Nothing hits home like empiricism.