a reply to: MentorsRiddle
Great topic that I've pondered a lot.
Another conservative forum I was on . . . about as big or bigger than ATS in terms of membership . . . one of the very high ranking principals . . .
noted that I was a "hate magnet." i.e. that for some reason, my posting style, my personality--whatever combination--seemed to fiercely attract
hateful attitudes and responses.
That's true on ATS, as well.
Thankfully, there are some on the opposite side of the fence toward me. LOL.
But the polarizing effect has been a sobering fact of my life over most of my 60+ years. And the last decade or so, it has become more intense.
I think it is because of spiritual factors. And I think those same factors are driving so much of the intense emotionality on the net and on ATS.
In my case, I've had folks walk into a cocktail party who have never met nor known me--take one look at me and walk out the door and never return to
Sometimes, I've walked into a room and even without saying anything, the emotionality in the discussion intensified markedly.
I seem to trigger folks categorizing me in stereotypic ways that may well have NOTHING AT ALL (of any significance) to do with me as an individual.
But suddenly, I'm cast by other posters as the POSTER CHILD of their most hated religion; philosophy, perspective.
And their seething hostility instantly flames into a bonfire that seems to know no limits--often--on ATS, merely because I've said anything--however
mild, on the thread.
Certainly I'm a forceful writer and don't tend to roll over instantly and play dead to every fool thing anyone says. Nevertheless, I don't engage
in PERSONHOOD, PERSONALLY ASSAULTIVE insults. I'm not above insulting ideas, perspectives or habits. LOL.
Yet, I attract . . . probably the MOST personally assaultive posts and attacks that I've observed on ATS. Sometimes, it's incredible as well as
incredibly mystifying--unless one factors in the spiritual dimension.
OF COURSE, ATTACHMENT DISORDER junk from childhood is a HUGE factor in hate, attacks, assaults, hostility, unbridled lust . . . and their expression
beyond the bonds of civility.
I agree with THE2OFUSR1 that PASSION is a priceless thing of great benefit when originating out of honorable inner centers and governed by honorable
However, Passionate hate can be incredibly destructive.
Unbridled Hate and hostility, imho, always have a root in the unresolved inner conflicts of childhood.
Certainly we can most all hate child and animal abuse instantly and fiercely.
But hate which is seething, chronic, unrelenting, instantly flashable, haughty, . . . that comes from inner hideousness, hurts, conflicts which have
never been resolved. And, usually, unforgiveness, bitterness, resentment are wrapped up in the tangled knots inside, as well.
I believe that the forces of evil are doing their utmost within and without every individual possible to cause hurt, discord,
hostility, conflict, war, destruction on every corner, in every relationship, in every way.
Some of us give-in to such evil pressures within and without more easily and more fully than others.
Striking out fiercely against someone who reminds us of an abusive parent; a harsh, hated teacher . . . can be almost an instantaneous reflex for too
On top of that is a world obviously going to hell in a handbasket. Government is saturated with evil individuals hell-bent on evil goals--particularly
at the top. Individuals feel trapped, helpless and too often hopeless.
Given the churning angst underneath the surface of most individuals, it's almost a miracle that more conflict hasn't occurred more dramatically
already--just as the globalist oligarchy is pushing for and building toward.
Patience is in short supply.
There are few constructive options. Most folks know the One's I advocate so I won't belabor those.
Certainly EMPATHY is also in short supply and rarely very robust.
The practice of EMPATHY is very admirable, constructive and even life saving.
And, yet, as has been stated, empathy does NOT = agreement.
Many posters on ATS will continue to remain SEETHINGLY HOSTILE AND ASSAULTIVE unless and until the other party totally capitulates and agrees with the
hostile one. THAT'S UTTER CHILDISH NONSENSE. Such folks need many hours of therapy--particularly group therapy.
We have an opportunity hereon to refine our better qualities in relationship dialogues. Many, instead, seem intent on amplifying their outrageous
angst, hostility, hate, spears, clubs and arrows. They fail to appreciate sufficiently that THEY WILL reap all the sowing of such.
I don't have a handy, one-size-fits-all solution.
I think earnestly working every post . . . every sentence . . . to be civil and AS HEARABLE as possible
, is a crucial task worth genuinely
applying ourselves to.
I certainly think that PRACTICING EMPATHY bears a great harvest in our hearts, in our lives, in our person, in our relationships.
It can help a lot on ATS.
It doesn't seem to mollify those who are bone-marrow arrogantly hostile out of a great seething cauldron of childhood attachment disorder.
But it can help a lot with those who are typically angry but with more control over it.
Anyway--thanks for the thread. Well worth pondering.