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My wife and I belong to a Conservative synagogue where we send our two sons (ages 8 and 11) to Hebrew school and attend services on holidays and many Shabbats. We have friends in the community, enjoy our Jewish life, and are very much looking forward to our oldest son’s bar mitzvah — or at least we were looking forward to it. Our problem is he has suddenly and rather emphatically declared himself an atheist and says he does not want to have a bar mitzvah. Our son is incredibly interested in science and insists it is unscientific and superstitious to believe in God. Also, the young rabbi our son had been training with took a position in another city and my son has not formed a bond with his replacement, who is much older. I fear this is a problem that will not solve itself. Any advice, Mensch? — Stumped in Oakland
Dear Stumped: First off, a number of rabbis have assured Mensch that your son’s onset of recalcitrance at this age is not at all uncommon. How else should a 13-year-old boy respond to the prospect of stuffing himself into a suit and reading ancient Hebrew text in front of weird Uncle Saul and old Aunt Helen?
originally posted by: windword
At least a Bar Mitzvah isn't a "Purity Ball, where young women pledge their virginity to thier fathers.
originally posted by: ItCameFromOuterSpace
a reply to: windword
Did the little s.o.b. throw this kind of fit at his bris?
originally posted by: windword
a reply to: the owlbear
I'm not Jewish either, but I'm researching Judaism right now, and came across this article. I thought it was "religiously" sort of universal.
But I also appreciate the importance of celebrating "manhood". Ladies do it, for example, "Belles" in "The South" have their balls, and here in California they have a "Quinncedes".
At least a Bar Mitzvah isn't a "Purity Ball, where young women pledge their virginity to thier fathers.
originally posted by: windword
a reply to: the owlbear
Just to be clear, the subject of OP isn't my kid.
I'm a Christian apostate with a 40 year old daughter who has multiple doctorates, and no grandchildren.
originally posted by: manna2
Don't they have protocol for occurances like this? Like don't they test to see if he weighsmore than a duck or something?