posted on Jun, 27 2014 @ 01:33 AM
Everywhere I look I see people debating, bickering, arguing, and fighting. I also see a lot of love, compassion, concern, and giving. Yet, it seems as
if so many of us are consumed with this notion that we are right. Right about what exactly? Right about a disputed fact, or about what someone else
should think, say, or do? It becomes burdensome watching the bickering, especially online.
I used to the think I could find answers through research. I have to some degree, especially in the area of history. However, I have been left with
many more questions than answers. I believed for a time it was my obligation to inform others and to correct them if necessary. I have come to learn
this couldn't be further from my truth.
My truth is that people should express themselves in whatever manner they see fit as long as they're following the simple doctrine of do no harm to
others. It has taken me a long time to get to this place, as everywhere I look I see such infighting, even by like minded people who know more about
our current condition than the average person. It seems to cross into all aspects of life, be it politics, religion, love, friendship, business...etc.
Why is this the case? Why do we, as humans, believe it is our right to force our truth onto others? Why such callousness and arrogance?
I'm am not casting stones, as I've been an arrogant prick many times. I now see the error of my ways, yet I'm constantly sucked into the vortex of
argument. It appears it is merely a condition of being human at this point. I think the answer is that we're all crazy to one degree or another.
Everyone. We're merely placed at different parts of the spectrum. If it weren't the case, then why would we ever try to tell someone else what the
'truth' is, when it is obvious that the truth comes in many gradients and is for the most part subjective? I don't mean truth as mathematical, or
even scientific, but as telling others what they should be doing.
A quick story. The other day I was at a party with my best friend. I saw an old friend I hadn't seen in probably 5-6 years. He pulled out a bag of
coke and did a line. I told him he shouldn't do that, and he was better than being involved in such mess. He became offended, but in my typical
manner, I calmed him down and let him realize I meant no offense. By the end of it he agreed that he shouldn't be doing it. As we left, I felt joy in
knowing I'd helped a friend. That's when my best friend looked at me and said 'why do you always do that?'. I asked him what he meant. He said
'why do you always feel the need to correct people?'. At this I became slightly offended. I insisted that all I was trying to do was help the
situation. He replied 'people know when they're f******* up, J, and if they don't, then they're too stupid to help anyways'. I've thought about
those words a lot lately. He's right. Though my intentions were good, all I did was make my friend feel bad about himself. This is where I struggle,
because I still felt that maybe my words could have impacted him to stop doing what he was doing, but alas, my best friend was right. My old friend
knew what he was doing wasn't smart. Don't we all do things that aren't intelligent or good for us? Yes. Therefore it isn't upon me, nor anyone
else, to judge or try to impart wisdom on another, unless asked to do so.
This has become my truth: Listen, observe, help through action, and only advise when called upon. I try to live by this now, but it is tough when I
see so much wrong with the world.
I doubt this thread will be picked up, but if it is I challenge everyone to go through an entire thread without arguing. Disagreeing is different than
arguing. Let's see if I'm wrong.