originally posted by: FlySolo
......I spend 95-99% of my free time by myself.......I haven't had a phone call on a personal level from anyone in Vancouver for about 5 years now I
Man, I feel for you, that sounds lonely.
I tried POF for a month but either the profiles in my search range were women I already see out and about in local bars/parties/festivals/etc, or the
'unknowns' had pretty much nothing similar to my lifestyle and social circles so didn't really interest me, even after exchanges of messages.
Perhaps if you could somehow widen your face to face social circle then it could help in meeting new women at the same time. I haven't moved for
years now, but if I arrived in a new town or city here in the UK I'd find my nearest local pub/bar with a pool table, put my 50 pence in line and get
networking over a pint and a game. Then I'd become a member of the local rugby club, go watch their next home game then get chatting to the locals at
the clubhouse bar.
Your situation is obviously unique to yourself, but honestly, as someone who only has dependent family (my son) living closer than a couple of hundred
miles, my friends are very important in my life so I make sure I work hard at those friendships above any other relationship considerations.
I wish you the best of luck though fella, I can't offer much advice on the digital dating thing really as I prefer face to face and all it's subtle
nuances combined with obvious features such as looks, smell, even the way a woman carries herself in the shared environment...digital didn't cut it
Oh, and for the record (and back on-topic) You're a good looking guy, in the sense that if I had a horrible accident and brain transplants were
possible, I certainly wouldn't be bitching if you had donated your head/body, well, the bits we can see at least lol, and I'd have a grade 0
hairclip and shave my face before I presented my new self to the worlds women. Style issue though means nothing, pity we'll never bump into each
other in a bar here, I know a few fit and fun late mid 30/early 40's women in my social circle who would probably shag you judging from your pic.
It is not your looks putting women off if you ask me, it is lack of exposure in the real world and/or the cattlemarket that POF is with women getting
overwhelmed/bombarded by the attention of competing males on the site.
Women almost hold the position of cats carefully choosing who they go with on POF, while us blokes are more like packs of dogs all chasing the few