a reply to: sled735
Star and Flag – great post.
Great and important topic and one that everyone can use. I’m been working on this to inadequate result my entire adult life.
For people with minds like mine, addictive and self-centered, this list of ‘things to do’ is overwhelming. All good ideas, in themselves, but I
have to learn to focus on one item at a time and learn how to do that with relative ease before even attempting another. That is one thing I have
learn – the importance of learning focus – a soft easy focus, not a forced, rough one.
# 1 on your list is actually a mental function that, I think, would produce more chaos and anxiety in the mind. A familiarity with one’s core
issues will come without effort – over time – with the practice of meditation.
# 2 a wonderful suggestion to which I would add turn off the computer. These are both ‘activities’ that promote chaos and clutter in the mind.
#3 By all means. I would recommend starting with something very simple such as Transcendental Meditation or another mantra meditation for beginners
for aural learners. Walking meditation for physical learners. For visual learners there the use of a candle or Yantra is good or, and one I still
use regularly especially before bed is a device called the EM-WAVE by the Heartmath Institute. It is a small device witch measures heart-rate
variability and has a visual that you track with your eyes and match your breathing too. For more information see (I don’t have any financial
interest in the company or the associated non-profit)
I’ve never used their desktop or cloud versions; but have been using the original portable EM-WAVE for about 12 years now and love, it. There is a
lot of information about the physiology of meditation on their sites though, to appeal to business-types, they call it coherence.
#4 – this is silly, imo. Just how do you do that? Really – again meditation is a start on being aware of the ego as separate from SELF rather
#5 – Good ideas but a long slow process for those who were not taught this from birth.
#6 – Exercise is pretty easy and doing it mindfully turns it into mediation. The easiest meditate I ever learned was doing times tables while
#7 - Again how?
#8 – This could be seen as contradictory to the Turn off the TV thing, or other addictive activities or substances. I would amend it to say ‘do
something fun and collaborative with others” as in play music, sing in a choir, play socor or softball, play board games, go camping. But all must
be done for fun and not for ‘winning’ which triggers obsession.
#9 – Another How? First you have to recognize that ‘you’re helping’ is only a mechanism for exerting control on others and surrounding
circumstances. Only then can you back away from the fight.
#10 - A wonderful tactic, one I’ve never had much luck with, but it works very well for those who do it consistently and without doing it as though
someone will eventually read it. Do it and burn it. Stream of conscious only. It can only be a place for your mind to throw up all it’s crap.
#11 - Great idea but impractical for many. You can bring nature into your home in small ways with rocks, plants (if you can keep them alive LOL –
see the film 28 days – LOL)
I’ve missed one here. See too many things, I’ll never be able to do them all and so am a failure……
Ah – living in the now, mindfulness. Again now – now do you start. First you have to recognize that your are in the future or the past and then
need a tool to bring you back to now. Hard work, imo.
The tool I use and have for several years. Gratitudes. Not feeling gratitude, but using the things that I know I should be grateful for. When I’m
agitated, I know I’m not in the now, I start listing the things that I have, that others don’t. A roof over my head, shoes on my feet, running
water, hot running water at that, work, friends, a love of learning,…. You get the idea. I do it in traffic when I find myself angry at another’s
driving (trying to control my ‘world), I do it when I’m afraid of XXXXX, I do it when an old hurt comes up to chew on again, I do it when I’m
imagining my headache is a brain tumor or some other lurking catastrophe appears in my mind. It isn’t real – none of it.
When ever I’m uncomfortable whatsoever, I start with the gratitudes. The single best thing I’ve learned for all of the above.