originally posted by: onequestion
I notice a lot of people hurting, in emotional distress, traumatized and I'm wondering why?
Why wouldn't people treat each other more kindly, with more respect?
Why isn't there better mental healthcare social safety nets and help for people?
Why doesn't modern societies psychology programs adequately help people?
originally posted by: calstorm
People are told to just get over it, no one wants to hear your problems.
And then, they hear other people say that they have more sympathy for animals. We care more about an abused animal than an abused child!
but every person I turned to for help was the "I love my animals more than people" type.
What I have learned in life: Experiencing child abuse, don't tell, telling makes things worse.
Have a difficulty in your life? Don't ask for help, asking for help makes things worse.
Experience death, especially the loss of your children? Don't talk about it, don't show your sadness if it has been more than a couple months. Every one excepts you to move on quickly, if you can't and you need more time to grieve, there is something wrong with you. 10 months is to long to still be having such a rough time.
You know the worst part, when someone asks if you have kids,when motherhood has been apart of your life so long and you don't know how to respond anymore. When you don't know how to respond or talk about it so you make posts on ATS as if they are still around because sometimes it is just easier that way. You can't sleep at night, but you know the judge who ordered your kids to go with a man who had a suspended licenses due to multiple DUI's , sleeps just fine at night.
I reached out and reached out only to have my hand slapped every time. Only to be slapped more by them telling me I should have asked for help! Um, when I was screaming at the top of my lungs for help, you were the same people telling me to toughen up and not ask for help. (I am not bitter, I swear)
I have had to go to work the next day after death and act like nothing is wrong and put a smile on my face because it was a brand new job and I was in probationary period.
I have experienced death and after the first day, no one seemed to care, it was all on me to take care of everything when I mentally was barley able to. You hear of people cooking sympathy meals or flowers or cards. Well I have lost every single blood relative I every had, and never got that. I think it is just a T.V. thing.
Oh and guess what happens if you call a suicide hotline, they tell you to ask family (mine are all dead so that really stings) and then they tell you to sleep it off, 3 minute conversation at best. I guess I am kind of lucky that I stopped when the knife didn't do deep enough with the first cut. Only one person on ATS seemed to notice what I was planning on doing that night even though plenty of people read and commented on that thread. (It was someone elses thread not mine)
originally posted by: xDeadcowx
I don't have studies to back it up, but I would be willing to bet that mental illness and emotional problems are very rare the more rural the community. The most isolated, rural communities are probably the happiest overall as well.
originally posted by: Bluesma
But it made me realize that a community can live together fine even with everyone being so different. There is no need for everyone to have the same sort of mind and behaviors, considered 'normal' or 'healthy' -at least not such an extent. If someone is dangerous to others, okay- call that ill and treat it. But for less, it is possible to just let them live- it is a great exercise in acceptance of other and tolerance.
I told my neighbor once that I was having tests to rule out cancer and that I had a lot on my mind, and wasn't worried about raking leaves up in my yard that fall, and she ignored me and kept telling me I should rake my leaves.
originally posted by: supergravity
a reply to: onequestion
As an engineer I suggest the cell towers , ect operating at brain frequencies are affecting brain waves causing many emotional problems. Not to mention the number of people sleeping with there cell phone next to them,this causes sleep deprivation from the waves from the tower and the phone as reported in the media a few weeks ago.