I notice a lot of people hurting inside

a reply to: calstorm

Keep putting your thoughts to words, friend. It helps. It's on us to make our lives beautiful. No one will do it for us.

a reply to: calstorm

Calstorm - I'm here if you ever need. That goes for anyone else as well. No one should ever feel alone. And plenty feel alone with family. I mean it - I'm here if anyone ever needs. I've been burned out, felt alone, suffered with dealing with too many things heaped on my plate, etc, etc, etc. I know what it's like and I know what it is to feel that people know but they just don't care. Alright, I'm off to bed. But I'm always here. xox

a reply to: ccseagull Thank you, your words really touch me.

LesMisanthrope You are correct, but sometimes you just need to hear things from an outside source, especially when pain keeps you from thinking straight, or to just know you aren't alone.

a reply to: onequestion

A lack of awareness I think… A different level of consciousness; Some people have consideration and others in a way that I don't understand do not… That and people seem in a whole not to like to make decisions for their true selves… people are #ing weird.

Personally I think some need guidance, a peaceful way of life something to follow, aim for an achieve

originally posted by: onequestion
I notice a lot of people hurting, in emotional distress, traumatized and I'm wondering why?

Really?Do you know me?

Why wouldn't people treat each other more kindly, with more respect?

Why isn't there better mental healthcare social safety nets and help for people?

Overpopulation.It's very normal that when a kind of animals overproduction,they started to eat each others.

Why doesn't modern societies psychology programs adequately help people?

It just business ,they need more clients .

originally posted by: calstorm
People are told to just get over it, no one wants to hear your problems.

Obviously,the actual probability is lower than 5%.

And then, they hear other people say that they have more sympathy for animals. We care more about an abused animal than an abused child!

That's what I don't like those animal "lovers".That kind of sympathy seem like a kind of ally.When you playing a military game,you would like get many dumb and loyal ally for grow forces.

but every person I turned to for help was the "I love my animals more than people" type.

Because they like pretend they are warm and kind.

What I have learned in life: Experiencing child abuse, don't tell, telling makes things worse.

Your parents abused you?????No offense, I think I know the reason..........

Have a difficulty in your life? Don't ask for help, asking for help makes things worse.

I would still troll for the result of "asking for help makes things worse".

Experience death, especially the loss of your children? Don't talk about it, don't show your sadness if it has been more than a couple months. Every one excepts you to move on quickly, if you can't and you need more time to grieve, there is something wrong with you. 10 months is to long to still be having such a rough time.

You can still troll them.(Being who you really are)

You know the worst part, when someone asks if you have kids,when motherhood has been apart of your life so long and you don't know how to respond anymore. When you don't know how to respond or talk about it so you make posts on ATS as if they are still around because sometimes it is just easier that way. You can't sleep at night, but you know the judge who ordered your kids to go with a man who had a suspended licenses due to multiple DUI's , sleeps just fine at night.

I guess I didn't read that post...

I reached out and reached out only to have my hand slapped every time. Only to be slapped more by them telling me I should have asked for help! Um, when I was screaming at the top of my lungs for help, you were the same people telling me to toughen up and not ask for help. (I am not bitter, I swear)

I remember that many members on ATS answered you how to mute your neighbor's dog...........................

I have had to go to work the next day after death and act like nothing is wrong and put a smile on my face because it was a brand new job and I was in probationary period.

What's death?

I have experienced death and after the first day, no one seemed to care, it was all on me to take care of everything when I mentally was barley able to. You hear of people cooking sympathy meals or flowers or cards. Well I have lost every single blood relative I every had, and never got that. I think it is just a T.V. thing.

Oh and guess what happens if you call a suicide hotline, they tell you to ask family (mine are all dead so that really stings) and then they tell you to sleep it off, 3 minute conversation at best. I guess I am kind of lucky that I stopped when the knife didn't do deep enough with the first cut. Only one person on ATS seemed to notice what I was planning on doing that night even though plenty of people read and commented on that thread. (It was someone elses thread not mine)

Should I find back the post and link it here ?

a reply to: onequestion

"I notice a lot of people hurting, in emotional distress, traumatized and I'm wondering why?"

I guess one reason could be that people kind of expect more from life these days than it actually offers them. These days instead of being told to expect more, instead we are now required to make do with less.

I imagine the above adds to any emotional distress or trauma we are currently experiencing.

a reply to: calstorm
so true, my husband died and no one but my immediate boss even said a word to me. I was a director level person, had employees, peers, etc. No one cared. It was so freaking weird.

We were living apart for a year before his accidental death, but we talked nearly daily and had a child together. He was going through addictions, so best we were apart. But still, no one gave me a card or said anything to me. I walked around in a fog and felt like it all was a bad dream because no one was acting like anything had happened.

My mgr was wonderfully supportive, but she was more like my friend than a typical mgr would be.

I told my neighbor once that I was having tests to rule out cancer and that I had a lot on my mind, and wasn't worried about raking leaves up in my yard that fall, and she ignored me and kept telling me I should rake my leaves.

People, I find, can be very weird.

I think I am a caring, compassionate person. But I don't feel it in the world very often.

Hang in there!

a reply to: onequestion

Today's world is based on fear and violence. That results in a lot of trauma. Fear is used as a mechanism of control. For example, we are told to remove our shoes at the airport because were are supposed to be afraid of terrorists. Fear of losing your home is used to force people to pay property tax on something they are supposed to already own. Then when you don't react to the fear and say "I'm not afraid of terrorists and will not remove my shoes" or "I already own my property so I won't pay a tax on it" then violence is used to escort you away from the airport or away from your own property. People make assumptions about humanity, that it is fundamentally selfish to the point of self-decay, and then use those to create an atmosphere of fear and violence.

Replace the mechanisms of fear with love and violence with peace and suddenly you have people with little trauma and distress. The huge burden of self-delusions and illusions of living in a civilized world crack at the seams resulting in mental distress for many people.

Our government tells people: Hey, if you are the right class of person you can take other people's things and get away with anything at all. I think that produces no end of mental distress for many if not most people. Or more simply put, people do not want to be slaves but that is what they quite nearly are. Most of the world is corporate slaves, with the largest corporation not being Walmart but rather the United States of America. Being a slave is naturally quite mentally distressing.

use't to be a time you did not need to lock your doors.
now the locks dont stop them.
I am very odd.
if I see some one who needs help I will help them!

Yes I hurt a LOT inside.

Alienation is part of the fabric of capitalism.

originally posted by: xDeadcowx

I don't have studies to back it up, but I would be willing to bet that mental illness and emotional problems are very rare the more rural the community. The most isolated, rural communities are probably the happiest overall as well.


DC

Having grown up in a big city, with shrink parents, then moving to a rural community, I would venture that no, there is NOT less mental illness in rural areas.

I would say, however, that what people choose to call mentally ill is vastly different.

Behaviors that are considered various forms of mental illness in the city are just considered individual quirks or characteristics... just the way that individual is. So he lives with his goats in his livingroom, she washes her hands 100 times a day, he talks to himself and occasionally punches himself in the head, she is afraid of crowds and hides in her home. So what? Others adapt to their particular ways.

I sometimes want to write a sit com about an american from LA moving to rural south France, and the colorful and crazy characters she deals with there on a daily basis. This is Wonderland, I tell ya. We're ALL crazy here.

But it made me realize that a community can live together fine even with everyone being so different. There is no need for everyone to have the same sort of mind and behaviors, considered 'normal' or 'healthy' -at least not such an extent. If someone is dangerous to others, okay- call that ill and treat it. But for less, it is possible to just let them live- it is a great exercise in acceptance of other and tolerance.

Much of our unhappiness stems from our ideas about who and how we should be, and just how things in our life should be.

Our capitalist society has taught us to never ever be content. That is crazy making.

originally posted by: Bluesma

But it made me realize that a community can live together fine even with everyone being so different. There is no need for everyone to have the same sort of mind and behaviors, considered 'normal' or 'healthy' -at least not such an extent. If someone is dangerous to others, okay- call that ill and treat it. But for less, it is possible to just let them live- it is a great exercise in acceptance of other and tolerance.

Because the propaganda and mind control investment is far lesser in rural community.

As the frequencies are being tweaked both naturally and Un-naturally, the confusion has compiled to crazy levels, even the religious are losing grip with their denominations.

People know they have a hell of a lot of power, they just have been taught in EVERY imaginable way to fear it, and do not use it AT ALL COSTS.

Talk about conflict.

a reply to: onequestion

“Come to Me, all of you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest."
- Mathew 11:28

a reply to: Galadriel

I told my neighbor once that I was having tests to rule out cancer and that I had a lot on my mind, and wasn't worried about raking leaves up in my yard that fall, and she ignored me and kept telling me I should rake my leaves.

It's the fear of death. They feel that if they acknowledge the reality you're living (which is the reality they fear for themselves), they will some how become infected, almost faced with their own fears of death. So as long as death holds this taboo, and ignorance of self and the fear it creates is perpetuated, more and more people will shun you. Same thing happens (to lesser degree of course) to people who are unemployed, down, broke and out of money and hope, society will shun and ignore them.

a reply to: calstorm There are people here at ATS that care. I feel your pain, I really do. Being abused as a child affects one for their entire life...causing trust issues and relationship problems and more. I know.

I posted a "reaching out" type post/thread once and the majority of folks "got me" and understood where I was coming from and how much I was hurting...however, there were a few that were needlessly cruel...they could have just said nothing. Of course, there is the freedom of speech thingy but sometimes words are like weapons and they do hurt, sometimes are better left unsaid...once someone shoots off their mouth and the words are like bullets, well, no amount of goodness comes from that, words can't necessarily be taken back or forgotten. That post/thread changed me and made me less apt to reach out and be personal.

However, in everyday life here at home, I most definitely would have offered you help and flowers and casseroles and friendship, as needed. Hubby laughs at me when I do such for folks I don't even know and may hear about, that they are going through a bad time. To me, giving is truly more than receiving. I feel such joy if I feel like I made someone feel better in some way.

This OP/thread...that is the problem in the world today...why we may feel sad and lost and alone, because most people either have so much on their own plate, they don't feel so inclined to help others, some folks just don't care...fear, worry, the injustices we see in the world, the hate, the destruction...we are all so burdened. It is hard to find any beauty or make any sense of it all. Yet, we must.

I plant flowers to make my life better in some small way. I create art. Sure, a lot of what I do is a solitary effort....sometimes, that is all there is and it helps some. I still try and be helpful and kind but I must admit, I find myself becoming more and more of a loner. Pain of the heart/soul/spirit is a hard thing to deal with. Love to you calstorm!!!

a reply to: onequestion

I think the problem is that many people are living in fear during a period of intense personal stress. Baby boomers are in many cases dealing with 3 things:

1. Hanging on to their jobs which are growing increasingly shaky and insecure
2. Having to worry about their kids, their kids future, and family issues.
3. Having to worry about aging and in many cases sick parents who weren't able to save enough to retire because of degradation of the economy in the past 30 years.


Also for the first time in many years, the extended family as a safety net and support system is not working, in many cases because other family members are dealing with the same things I just outlined.

Then there is mass media, which seems to keep anyone who watches it in a state of perpetual anxiety.

We are not living in easy times and there doesnt seem to be any relief in sight. I would love to know the statistics on depression cases in the US right now. I read recently that suicide is way up.


I think the only way out of it is to make a real effort to realize our limitations, to downsize our life to a level where we can better manage it, and to find solace in things besides working and social stability. We have to redefine our identities about being more than being just consumers and workers and pursuing the "American dream". The art of war has a passage about winning conflict by being a willow tree, as a willow bends with the wind where an oak just breaks. We need to ditch the oak mindset and become willows.

originally posted by: supergravity
a reply to: onequestion

As an engineer I suggest the cell towers , ect operating at brain frequencies are affecting brain waves causing many emotional problems. Not to mention the number of people sleeping with there cell phone next to them,this causes sleep deprivation from the waves from the tower and the phone as reported in the media a few weeks ago.

I dont think that is far fetched. We are basically guinea pigs as to what the emissions by all these new technologies can do to us. This article I read a while back really threw me, it sounds like tin foil hat material but it makes sense. It says basically that the coils in a mattress can absorb radiation and re emit it, which means your mattress can concievably give you cancer. I dont know if any serious scientific research has been done on this, but the idea sounds plausible.

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