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originally posted by: TiredofControlFreaks
a reply to: grainofsandYou believe that child are the property of parents and can be controlled every second of every day.
And you provide your example of perfect parenting as the ideal to which every human being should strive. (and yes - its called bragging)
The fact that YOUR actions had the desired effect in YOUR household is called ANECDOTAL EVIDENCE. It is of no practical value.
Do you truly think that there is no one on this site who has parented children other than you? We have, each and every single one of us, had a time and place when our child needed us and we stepped up to home plate and hit a home run. The opposite is also true. We have, each and every single one of us, had a time and a place when our child needed us and we stepped up to home plate and STRUCK OUT, (including you, Mr. Wonderful!)
You used a common sense approach, reduced the use of high calorie food and increased physical activity AND it worked!
Well la di da
Did YOUR child head over to a friends house and eat his face off? No? Then I guess YOUR child was cooperative with your approach. You got lucky!!!!
Was YOUR child awakened in the middle of the night because of hunger? NO??? Again you got got lucky. What would you have done if you found your child waking up in the middle of the night and raiding the fridge? Would you have denied food to the child and locked the fridge up?
What if YOUR child had started crying and proclaimed that he was "hungry, hungry, hungry"? Would you deny him food? According to your energy in/energy out equation, even providing an apple at 120 calories would have supported his increased wieght. Would you have stood there as a parent and denied your kid food?
As I said - your example IS bragging and is most likely irrelevant to the kid and the parents in the OP!
As for your simple energy in / energy out equation, you are quoting the first law of thermodynamics. You are talking physics but you should be talking biology.
Since you are so determined to use yourself as the shining ideal of parenthood,
please answer this question:
Did you deny food to a hungry child (for his own good, of course) but still endure night after night of your kid waking up hungry or crying during the day that he was hungry?
Did you follow him every minute of the day to ensure that he did not eat food somewhere else?
Did you lock the fridge up?
If you encountered any of the above problems AT ALL , what exactly did you do, how did you react?
How much wieght exactly did your kid have to lose (you said he was just "starting" to gain wieght) are we talking 10 lbs here?
How does that compare to a kid who needs to lose 25 lbs, 50 lbs or 100 lbs.
originally posted by: TiredofControlFreaks
Since you and grainsofsands are both child-rearing experts, whose children never rebelled or were disobedient, perhaps you can enlighten those fools of us who have raised 7 children and know that kids have different personalities and needs
originally posted by: TiredofControlFreaks
BTW - your assessment of grainsofsand as a "good" parent. Remember that only recently was he 'thanked" by his kid for his strict attention to weight. I am guessing that there were some time period of intense resentment, feelings of inferiority and psychology issues in between the event and the thanks (if that is what is was)
I think you should remember that this is a man who said "I would only make love to a fat woman, if I was on a desert island and she was the only thing available"
Which is the same as saying "I would only stoop to relieve myself in a latrine if a proper toilet were unavailable"
Now if the man had said, "I am unattracted to fat woman and could not possibly have sex with one", I might have accepted that as simply a matter of personal preference.
But in this case, this man appears to believe that no woman could possibly object to being used as "personal relief station" by a man who finds her to ugly to look at?
originally posted by: TiredofControlFreaks
Kindly notice that grainsofsands kid was just "starting" to gain weight (possibly ahead of a growth spurt).
He had no health issues but notice how ANY food ruled unhealthy was immediately denied to the kid.
originally posted by: TiredofControlFreaks
I have been asking the same question over and over. Neither you nor grainofsand will answer.
Telling stories how you wouldn't have sex with a fat woman except under the condition of being on a desert isle and said fat woman being the only thing available is irrelevant (and frankly a little disgusting)
Yep, I'm personally repulsed by fat adults. I would only share an intimate moment with a fat woman if she was the last option - desert island shipwreck situation etc. Anything wrong with that? Thought police now is it? Must I be attracted to bodies with a high fat percentage because 'they're all beautiful inside' ??? Who is the 'Hitler' now as you mentioned earlier?