I am successful in a lot of areas of life (and not as successful in others), and I want to share with you one aspect of how that happens.
As in a few of my posts in the past, I am going to bring my focus to the realm of gaming because these days adults can get together in large groups
and compete and develop similar relationships that one would see in a true free market / anarchist state (as in the government is controlled directly
by the people and not by some outside oligarchs, and therefore fluid).
This kind of organization and freedom is a great environment to test different interactions out without the chance of something artificial mucking up
the mixture, like a police officer or judge.
We are going to talk about Magic: The Gathering first, and then my business second. Magic is a game where people construct a deck out of thousands of
different cards and compete at different levels, the highest offering hundreds of thousands of dollars in prizes, and a modest few grand would be in
the reach of the experienced player without a title at a Grand Prix.
Whenever I have done gaming, I have always focused on how to play, not on winning. This change in attitude is an important one, for it means that even
when I was just beginning in Magic, I would see things that other people missed in the basic arena - and this got the attention of the experts and
heroes in the area. This is what built friendships, not winning, but talking about the game, not getting powerful, but loving the game - that is what
helps network -
To be able to have conversations with the founder, Richard Garfield, or others on his development team in person, or leading artists - this doesn't
come from winning, this doesn't come from greed, this doesn't come from materialism or anything of the sort - this kind of success comes from letting
go of wanting success - from detachment - it comes from loving the game for what it is and wanting to learn more about it.
Now we can move on to business. When I started my business in nuclear technology, and I met a lot of people, did I meet some of the most successful
marketers and businessmen and scientists in the state because I was rich? Or because I was successful? Actually, no. More on how being poor is
beneficial in a moment - It was because I was passionate and my business partner and I were very interested in how we could make a tabletop fusion
reactor accessible for multiple uses.
The people who wanted to win or wanted money, they didn't know anything about tabletop fusion because they didn't care about the actual process (they
honestly didn't know the science behind their own business), and they told us we couldn't do it - but we didn't listen (there was no reason to), and
ultimately, those players don't matter anymore.
I just wanted to share with you that, in pretty much all cases, the people who care and play to play and discover how things work and enjoy what they
do are going to end up successful, while those who play to win are soon going to be irrelevant and probably move on to their next failure. I explained
above how come this is the way it is.
I'm sure there are going to be some cases where someone who wants money or power is in a position for that reason instead of because they love that
job - but they are going to not only be harming themselves, but society, as it is like placing a corroded gear in the middle of machinery. They have
corroded themselves with their own acid because they decided to live in fear rather than love - and this acid is dripping onto the rest of society,
ruining it. No one benefits here.
There is one last thing that I wanted to mention before heading off, and I just thought of it - what if you are saying to yourself, well, I have to
make compromises to get enough money to buy a house, and this and that - a legitimate critique - but listen here, because I am about to say something
that could blow your mind.
Detach. I recommend budgeting out to around $1,000 a month and figure out how to live on that comfortably for a single person. That will reduce
stress. I only live on about that much myself - although I think a more realistic number would be $1500. Figure out what you need to live comfortably.
Forget what society says. Compare your life to the middle-ages, not now - and look at the bounty you could have for $1500 and call it a win.
Once this is done and you feel safe and secure with the budget requiring less money to support (which is good, because getting money is stressful),
then find a way to support yourself doing something you love, or find a way to do something you love and support yourself with a job that you can do
without being too stressed out.
From these seeds come success, not from rotted apples. If you happen to have a big house and a lot of things requiring taxes and the like, great, sell
everything and simplify - put the money in the bank or use it towards a project that you love.
You don't have to give it away or whatnot - just destroy the things that piss you off and take the rubble and use it to build other things that you
like. And don't worry about losing too much - life exists - if you need help living comfortably on a low budget, just send me a P.M.
I live comfortably on around $1,000 a month, as a single person of course, and I spend my time doing what I love - tutoring, for example. It isn't out
of the question. Fear holds us back. But if fear is holding you back, maybe you need to destroy some things you are attached to - the reason I say
practice living comfortably on a low budget is so that you could write it down or something (after you have practiced it and worked out the kinks and
are happy with it) and always remember it, so you never have to be afraid again - you have that low-budget happiness to go back to, see.
It's a useful thing to have in the pocket, because the only way to be successful is to be willing to lose everything at every turn - and this gives
security and helps bring things into a clearer, more precise perspective.
Imagine not being stressed out about the prospect of losing something and how many more options that would open up for you to explore.
Besides, it's not really cheating to have a back-up plan for if you do lose everything.
I hope something in there helped someone out.
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