posted on May, 19 2014 @ 10:26 PM
So I met a girl about 2 weeks ago. Schedules were somewhat conflicted but we had begun talking every night from about 9 to (this is very strange for
me) 1 in the morning, sometimes longer. Great conversations, an insane amount in common, very comfortable and probably somewhat too open with each
other. Shared some things with her I'm not comfortable discussing with more than a handful of people, and she did the same. We share the same sense
of humor, ideals, tastes, interests, and values. The girl is smart as a whip, insanely quick with a joke, gets all my stupid references (and I
her's), and good-naturedly laughs off any awkwardness to the point that there isn't any, she's tough but sweet, strong but vulnerable and again,
I've just never really been so comfortable being myself with someone I've just met. I really don't think I could have written up a more ideal
woman for myself.
I took her out this weekend and we had a great time on the first date. She was very nervous, but after ten minutes in my car on the way to the date
it was like we had known each other for years. It obviously helped that we had spent so much time talking and had a ton of inside jokes and fodder to
pick on one another, but really just something about our two personalities obviously clicked perfectly. She took me out the next day (I REALLY like
this) and refused to let me pay for anything. She spent the night, but was a complete lady (I again REALLY like this if I'm actually into someone)
and my dog who is a rather good judge of character was completely taken with her. He cried when she left and spent some time by the door.
Here's the problem. I'm not into her looks. She has a nice body, a pretty face, great eyes, and despite her somewhat tomboyish personality
obviously takes care of herself (nice nails and hair, which I'm a sucker for). She has a weird chin. I can't get over it. I don't understand it.
It's like a fat girls chin under a pretty face on a nice body. It weirds me out. Sometimes it wasn't bad, but other times I would look over and
it was almost like she was actively trying to make it look bad. I feel like an ass. A complete ass. Again, into everything except this, but it
really bugs me.
Second problem. I feel like it's gotten a little too serious too quickly. This is something I'm fairly used to considering when I start dating a
woman they usually drop the love bomb within a month. It doesn't make me wildly uncomfortable, but she asked if we could make the thing exclusive in
a roundabout way. I sort of swerved around the question. When I got obviously weirded out on the phone after the second date she thought it was
because she had invited me to a family event, that wasn't it. It was the sort of veiled 'please ask me to be exclusive' thing.
So I'm in a weird place. I definitely have feelings for this girl. I think she's pretty much perfect (pearls and high heels with her jeans *bites
fist*) but I'm a little gun shy about commitment and the chin thing... What is up with the chin thing? Look at her straight on hard to notice, side
view? Yikes. I know myself well enough that I can say I'm not picking something arbitrary just because I'm weird about commitment. This really
bothers me. I am fully aware I am not perfect either. I suppose what I'm looking for in posting are personal stories and advice.