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When it comes down to overwhelming feelings like this, that's when I say to drop the clinical, logical assessment and just go with the emotions. Something needs to change. Confront what's bothering you the most and then work your way down the list. Make one change: did it help? Still feeling bad? Listen to what your emotional side is trying to tell you. Get in tune with them. (Not always easy for a guy to do!)
You're not feeling this job* (more below on this.) Well, keep other options open and don't be afraid to try something you DO enjoy.
You're taken with this woman. Talk to her. When the time and conditions are right, just talk to her. Better to know if there is a future one way or the other than to keep wondering about it (because that will just make you sick.)
I totally understand where you're coming from today. I was in a similar state of mind all last month. Now the advice I listed above may not work for everyone, but it worked for me. I plugged in to what I was feeling emotionally and went to work on making the necessary changes. I am happier, more excited, and more optimistic than I've been all year. Why? Because I'm not pacing the floor wondering what could and shouldn't be. I just started doing what I felt was right, what I felt would make me happy.
originally posted by: FlyersFan
Sounds like it could be depression. You might want to talk to someone about it. And I don't mean on the internet, I mean in an office. Side note ... your job makes you call people during family time .. from 6pm to 10pm. People don't like that. And so you are going to get a lot of negative energy sent your way for it. I don't know if you believe in the metaphysical (I DO), but that could be part of the problem. If you are able, a job change might help as well. Something more positive energetically ...
originally posted by: schuyler
It's a soul-sucking job, to be sure. And it sounds like the rest of your life is rather pressurized. Sounds like you need to re-boot! One thing you might consider: You write very good English. It's not 100% perfect, but it's darn close. You might consider investigating translating as a job, at least through school. It would be a lot less pressure and no monitoring. I'm sure a lot of your contemporaries also speak English, but I was thinking from the opposite point of view. English speakers don't speak Portuguese and this would be your market. Just a thought. Good luck.
originally posted by: BelowLowAnnouncement
a reply to: WhiteWine
Just take a step back for a minute. You're a human being, a god damn human being, this world was made by you for you and you don't have time to feel like this! If you can't afford to change your situation change your perspective instead.
Maybe thats a bit too vague and new-agey so Wise Mr Willie can show you a thing or two about making the most of your job instead (or at least make you laugh!):
Sorry I don't know how to embed or give advice but I hope you feel better soon
originally posted by: chelsdh
My husband has been working in call centers for 7 years now. All sorts, outgoing sales, incoming sales, banks, communications. He has disliked them all, but it's a job and pays the bills, so he does the job. I see it draining him, and look forward to when he no longer has to work for a call center.
originally posted by: greyer
a reply to: WhiteWine
Hey man that's what this area is for - getting this off you know.
To me, I just wish the world would change. It is literally all wrong. Nobody listens. but they listen so close to the worldly ego. I don't know why it wins. It is the same as peer pressure. Why does it win? It is not even something that is discussed between others, it is just something that is done, like a standard set in society. I don't want to be a part of this world and it pisses me off because it doesn't have to be so egotistical, it could actually be a good place if it wasn't for everybody hating on each other and denying it.