posted on May, 6 2014 @ 11:47 AM
a reply to: thedeadtruth
Many terms and emotional strings have been highjacked by obesity apologists. These are the people who use words like acceptance and tolerance as a
weapon to silence others with real concern.
No one seems to note that this OP was not about weight. it was about a way of responding to a question...rude or not to be rude.
If the OP's friend was asking him about a black friend and he does not like blacks, would he say no I am not interested
because I hate blacks
the no thanks not interested would do, no need to "be honest"to that point!
The whole point is treating people with respect. There was no inclination to HELP this person with a perceived flaw by being honest, this is simply a
As far as the weight thing, there is a view that includes more than just body. For instance my Grandmother was moderately large as she got older. I
never even thought about her body, she was a kind wonderful woman who was married to a wonderful cook. I didn't care that she didn't jog...that she
liked to knit and eat and be a lovely kind soul.
As far as any effects on her health I feel that was a personal thing unless i was invited to be involved in her body concerns..what business was it of
I perceive you as someone who cares about people's health, but this OP was not about that in any way.
I was gaining weight right after my marriage to a guy who loves to cook, someone (a friend) at work took me aside and talked to me about it, I had
truly not even noticed...I had moved and was not running daily, things can catch you pretty fast..a heads up from a kind friend was helpful. Deriding,
laughing calling names...in what way are these things helpful, if you crush a spirit it may never heal.
Personally I accept my overweight friends as they are and love them for who they are. They are the same people whether the body be thick or thin.