So I was thinking,
We parents sometimes get caught up in our lives and forgo the actual education of our children in many ways. We trust in others to teach our children
while we work, or simply in areas that go beyond our dominion. Teachers, family members, ect.
One thing we can always do as parents and that is always in our realm of influence is the the teaching of spiritual consciousness to our children.
I have been teaching my daughter every night now for a few days after a heart to heart with a friend in which he pointed out the things I was lacking.
He is a very spiritual person who takes an active role in his sons spiritual development. He pointed out that though I teach my daughter many things
and care about her education that I was failing her in one aspect.
I have been tippy toeing around the issue of God, spirituality, morality, and religion in general. My reasons were really my own. I didnt want to
impose on her a thing. I wanted her to form her own mind as I did and to learn to tend to her soul as I learned to in the absence of any real
I now realize that I have been too afraid to hurt her and that I was really fearing myself. I feared I couldnt teach that which I have learned.
Now just for some background, value check if you will...
I am a former Catholic. I was a traditional, deeply dogmatic, faithful Catholic PRACTITIONER. I have since become something else of my own making. I
think my signature sums up my spiritual system. I give no credence to anything of man, and with that I included the bible.
I would simply study it for wisdom and guidance, but without the dogmatic interpretation of ANY church or denomination.
That was holding me back from teaching my daughter since I felt I would only serve to impart to her MY beliefs and hinder her own development.
My friend is a Jehovah's Witness. I have been helping him do some construction work at a school he is building in Mexico and so we spend allot of time
just talking about stuff.
He isnt pushy about religion and has REALLY surprised me when it comes to what I thought of his faith. Honestly I have members of my distant family
that are of his denomination and I never really knew what they were about. I have to admit I was an ass about it always.
I think all the jest and commentary about Jehovah's Witnesses made me quick to judge before I really even learned what they were about.
Anyways, We talk allot on the job site. He is a great guy and I noticed how educated and well disciplined his son is. I asked how he approached his
education and he conveyed to me that though he tries to separate academics from religious study, when it comes down to it that they actually
compliment each other.
He explained that according to his faith, God asks that we work hard. Our spirit demands honest and hard work. The things we learn are as seeds and if
we tend to them carefully and diligently we will sow a great harvest of understanding. He said that God gives us the seeds, our hearts are the
soil....but the work is ours alone. He does not GIVE, he does not take. He only imparts us with the ability to be able to work. After that it is our
own effort and toil that will bring a good harvest or not. I knew that, but his faith in God made me understand it more.
You know whats funny, I went to Catholic school my whole life, heard that proverb a thousand times about casting seeds unto thorns and thistles,
stones and what not, had it explained, was examined, trained ect..., but all it took was one real conversation with an actual believer for my mind to
put it into practice.
I have since been picking random stories and passages from the bible and reading them to my kid. I took my friends approach of letting the listener
explain what he learns. Not to impart anything, but rather explain as best I can what they dont understand. He said its very important that bible
study be a self taught process. When we are forced into an interpretation we tend to try to fit everything we read into our preconceptions of it as we
are told. Again I knew that, but his words reached my heart.
I have learned to teach my daughter about the bible in a way that is not offensive to my own mind and convictions and is not inline with any
institutions dogma. I have been able to remove myself from the situation and allow the words to speak to my daughter. Her mind is the one to
learn...and my heart is the one to be inspired to explain to her what she does not understand.
I cant begin to explain the benefit this is all having on our family. Very good. All my reservations about the Church, other denominations, other
religions, or religion all together have never satisfied me. Though I filled my mind with knowledge and learned of all the flaws of christianity,
judaism and a whole host of spiritual texts, I was increasingly empty inside. I was disillusioned with mans attempt at spirituality and longed for a
way to impart to my child something I knew but couldnt manifest for myself always. It ran deep, but not long. Far but shallow.
I am awakening again unto my spirit and it is all thanks to my facing the real responsibility of tending to my families spiritual needs. In serving
them my needs are being addressed.
And it all started with a conversation with a man whom I would have IMMEDIATELY dismissed had he knocked on my door or started a conversation
otherwise. A Jehovah's Witness for crying out loud. What ever label he can have placed on him, he is a man of faith. That is what it took. I always
welcomed any faith into my mind and any wisdom or guidance into my heart and I have always fervently looked my whole life. I guess I just met the
right person at the right time for it all to make more sense for this next step.
I am not converting or anything like that. I have not discovered God through this mans particular faith. I discovered more of myself and God in me
thanks to anothers sincerity, love, and FAITH.
Its funny. I just recently bought a little silver cross with the words "faith" on it forming the horizontal part of the cross. I dont know why the
hell I did since I hate jewlery and have long since stopped wearing any religious symbols. I bought it by accident and just threw it on so it wouldnt
get lost before I could find it a good home. I think I will keep it.
Message received I am thinking.
SO in short, teach your kids something. Facts, knowledge and even wisdom is irrelevant without understanding. How do you teach understanding? Age old
problem for parents. Experience most say....but I have discovered a new way, an old way.
You may cringe, but sit down with a bible and have your child learn for himself what he will. Then have him teach you what he learned. Wisdom can be
found anywhere. Yes. But the Bible is a good source of it, and honestly if you have ANY faith, any what so ever in God, or something to that end....it
is teaming with knowledge that can help you scratch that itch that you just cant reach.
Not being sure is normal, but refusing to admit your ignorance out of pride is just counterproductive. You dont know. Fair enough....so what have you
done recently to "find out"...or at the very least get closer to a better understanding? What hope does a child have who is new to everything? You are
also charged as parents with the spiritual well being of your child as well.
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