Hi guys and girls
Thank you so much for talking about your daily struggles it was a godsend really to stable over this thread, even tho I do not suffer from OCD, I feel
like I am a sufferer because my whole family depends upon understanding it...
My girlfriend suffers with OCD and anxiety... Our relationship can at time be at times quite strained as she has bouts of mild to severe OCD & anxiety
I can deal with the anxiety that's not a problem looking after my women gives me comfort and I help her with It to anytime she's feeling scared or
worried about Anything, she's a shy type... where as I'm the loud sociable type, but it works well for me as I require that kind of balance to
contain the lunatic party animal inside,
Not just that... but because of my older brother who I could never really help, it is for me very rewarding to help others that are less fortunate or
suffering, just helping people is probably one of the most rewarding feel good things I've done In my life, Im totally selfless... I care more for
other people problem rather than tackle my own which has always been my downfall bit I don't care.. which was kinda how I feel for her, not to
mention she is a stunning woman, she just did to know it
The problems we have, is her at times... server insecurities, her insecurities at times can be very stressful for me it is almost like talking to a
brick wall and absolutely uncalled for, I'm not the flirty type, I'm the chatty sociable type..
It may be (mainly is) with her mother, if I'm Laughing and joking with her, she'll come out with things like I see the way you look at her, or do
you find her more interesting and fun than me... Or... You're leaving g me out of the conversation, I've tried so hard to. Ring her up to speed or
involve her, but she just doesn't really know how to be chatty and sociable tbh
Do you have any advice for me to understand how she arrives at these conclusions or things to tell her as it seems "just stop being stupid" doesn't
I understand she probably doesn't feel great about herself after 2yrs 2 babies, but it seems to me she is reading from a total BS delusional script
in her head and instead ignoring reality... What can I do? To squash this last irritation in our lives? No amount of reassurance is ever going to
resolve this, would regaining. Her confidence change much?
I'm am a very understanding person, my eldest brother, as mentioned.. there is a years gap between us I also have two other brothers and a sister
I've come to understand my brothers condition, (paranoid schizophrenia) which he has had for many years now, I thought when I met her, her shyness
and quietness was just that, but never quite understood the full extent of her conditions
I love her to bits and we have two children together, but In All honesty.. now it really has started to get to me, I want to try, if I can to help her
control her condition as so it is mild at best (that I can Live with) and that it doesn't reach the severity it can, I understand her condition
worsen when she is stressed and her diet goes from health to junk foods
I would also like her to try cognitive behavioural therapy again, other than these extreme bouts of OCD/Insecurity, as I said I can deal with the
anxiety... we have a very loving happy relationship with two beautiful kids
What do you guys and girls suggest ?