a reply to: believerofgod
Actually, I am from America.... but I live in France.
I found it a very upsetting experience at first, because it seemed everyone was rude and mean.
With time I figured out that I seemed rude and mean to them.
It is polite and considerate, in France, to speak out to someone when they have gained weight, or look unhealthy.
This is considered a way of showing you are attentive to their state of being and alert for signs that they might need support, aid or help.
In our country, of course, telling someone they look like they've gotten fat is considered rude and inconsiderate. When people would do that to me,
trying to show they cared about me, I thought it was the opposite.
There are many ways in which their customs and ways of expressing care are different.
I had to teach my children that when in France, one always keeps both hands up on the table at a meal,
But in my country, it is acceptable, if not preferable, to keep one hand on your lap.
I do not mean to say everyone should do this, I originally just meant to discuss (in a general way) the difference between politess and class, and the
way the Golden Rule is not as universal and reliable as people tend to think.
Then I made a remark about the sad state our country must be in if so many people found your choice to teach your child manners remarkable and