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The woman you shut in the door did not say "I am a feminist" (*nor did she say she was your mother) yet you reacted to her( rejection) by shutting the door on her .
This unkind act of yours was used as an opening for you to rant, reducing human beings to their gender.
You have not grasped or questioned why that the same concept "feminism" that you approved of for your mother now you disapprove of in woman. You label female human being as " feminists " and disapprove of them when you dress them up in your mothers ideology.
LesMisanthrope[/post]
" She had two bags I think. She didn’t struggle in the slightest. My relating of the story was conceived after the fact. I didn’t close the door on her"
The story is changing as you had told us that she did struggle.
LesMisanthrope[/post]." In apology for my oppressive act, I let the door go and it closed on her mid-stride, thereby allowing her to struggle with her shopping bag."
It's nothing a bit of therapy couldn't fix.
originally posted by: LesMisanthrope
a reply to: kaylaluv
Now I'm a liar. You might want to read again. I said I "allowed her to struggle with her shopping bags", meaning I gave her the opportunity.
Your replies reveal the reason why the whole story you told is better suited to the rant category.
You closed the door on another human being, there is no need to further explain this act as you have already told all that is needed .
You want us to believe that you did as the woman wished, that she wanted you to shut the door on her, and that you( gave her permission) " allowed " her to have the door shut on her.
Your hate is not good for you.
originally posted by: LesMisanthrope
I am the Patriarchy
(caution: language)
The other day I had the fortunate chance to hold a door open for another human being. But as I did so, the human I opened the door for asserted that such common courtesy wasn’t necessary, that she “didn’t need a man to hold a door open” for her, and the unconscious act of this benign kindness was in some strange fantastical way an instance of tyranny. In apology for my oppressive act, I let the door go and it closed on her mid-stride, thereby allowing her to struggle with her shopping bags. I walked away in silence as she guffawed and shook her head in ironic indignation.
originally posted by: Itisnowagain
The thread is written by The Misanthrope - there is no opposite word for misogynist - the term used for the hatred of humankind is misanthrope.
Notice how the poster has trolled you all because he seems to enjoy winding everyone up and comes across disingenuous.
originally posted by: halfoldman
I'm just against the disposability of men as described by Farrell.
Men have died in their thousands and millions, for both Queens and Kings, and certainly not all women were always anti-war.
Society has changed (at least in the West) since Farrell's book on the Myth of Male Power.
We have more rights for fathers and even in some places, maternity leave for men.
Women are also less excluded (and men not immediately expected) to perform the most dangerous jobs.
People become more aware of social issues if both genders are considered as equally disposable or worthy of protecting.
What still floors is me is that while conscription for men hasn't been around for a while, it seems in some places men must register for some kind of potential conscription.
I'd say then women must register for some kind of civil service for a similar length of time.
Why should women advance their careers, while men must drop everything, when so much affirmative action already favors them?
That shows continuing attitudes of male disposability.
Obviously these "femi-Nazis" wouldn't even care much for their sons to have an equal shot at life.
In South Africa white women count as affirmative action candidates, yet many of them also supported apartheid and the erstwhile propaganda.
Meanwhile, white males, now aged around 40 and over, were conscripted by law, and had to spend years in the army, often with horrific experiences.
And yet, white males are the only ones excluded from affirmative action!
originally posted by: Itisnowagain
The thread is written by The Misanthrope - there is no opposite word for misogynist - the term used for the hatred of humankind is misanthrope.
Notice how the poster has trolled you all because he seems to enjoy winding everyone up and comes across disingenuous.
1. First, perhaps a man shouldn’t attempt to define feminism. We could never expect an ideology concerned with equal rights to allow any man to do so. So far I’ve got “Feminism is about equal rights”. But that would entail feminism is about both woman’s and men’s rights. I don’t see that as the case, and is perhaps an unwarranted dogma. What’s your take?
2. Second, if feminism is about woman’s rights on the grounds of political, social and economic equality to men. What rights do I have that is the result of not an oligarchy, not a theocracy, and not a corrupt political movement, but a patriarchy, that you do not?
Third, a thought experiment. If you were in my position, and during a simple act of humanity a man said “I don’t need a woman to hold the door open me.” Would a feminist such as yourself really resort to the judeo-christian stock-phrase “turn the other check”?
You know - years ago - before every human came with it's own cellphone, I was walking down the street and asked a gentleman for the time. He launched into a kind of mini rant about time, and what a useless human construct it is, that he didn't even own a watch and how he wasn't a slave to time or any of humanity's limiting expectations or demands...blah, blah, blah...
Seriously - in the amount of time he took to explain what a fool I was for caring what time it was he could have just politely said he didn't know - but instead he had to put me in my place while simultaneously attempting to elevate himself over me and everyone else
Your first sentence is something that baffles me. What's to define - and why would it be up to men to define it in the first place? This idea...that you see yourself as so completely separate from women that you can't even relate to their position - to the point where you feel you can't even comment on it? This suggests to me that you overly identify with being a man, and not so much a person. You're very protective of your position and your words suggest to me that you see women as the opposition
Feminism is about equal rights. For quite some time women didn't have equal rights. Things in this country and others have changed quite a bit, but there's still so much to be done before things change to the point where we can say there's no longer a problem. No different from other battles for equality. In other parts of the world things haven't changed even a little bit, and women are treated like cattle. Because things are so much better here, no doubt many men are more than a little confused and irritated by the fact that the fight continues, but the fight is not just for American women, or European women - it's for women
You suggest that women should have rephrased their objections to their station in life to be more neutral? Even when we consider that life, though not often or even usually kind to men still granted them more rights, freedom, privileges and perks that it did women? Why would women fight for men to have the things they already have?
If you're going to argue that we're all oppressed, how do you explain that even among the oppressed men generally fare better than women?
LesMis - what could I say here that you would believe and accept?
I would never let a door close on someone if it's just as easy for me to hold it open. When someone says something that makes me angry - in a situation like the one you're describing - I generally hold my tongue. It's not complicated or difficult
originally posted by: Domo1
a reply to: woodwardjnr
3 of the 27 MPs are women.
Throwing stats at the thing isn't going to help. So 1/2 should be women? Fine. Isn't that sexist? Giving a woman preferential treatment?
originally posted by: eMachine
a reply to: LesMisanthrope
What a strange society we live in! How odd and uncomfortable our interactions can be when we're confused by the social politics of gender. How complicated.
I can think of a couple recent examples in my own life of such odd interactions, for example the gentleman I held the door open for just yesterday had a kind of surprised tone to his voice when he thanked me. Was it so unexpected?
Another thing that comes to mind... I'm a ~115lb woman and I carry my weight in groceries home from the store on the bus regularly. I have a much larger male neighbor I've talked to on the bus several times. One day I remember particularly, he said to me as we got off the bus, "Wow, you're really loaded down there!". I laughed, said something about buying food for 4 and wishing my kids didn't have to eat so much, and then we went our separate ways.
In my sweaty, hot, loaded-down-ness, I thought to myself how maybe I have feminism to thank for that. Not that I expected him to help me carry my groceries... I wondered if he thought I might take offense like the woman mentioned in the OP did, had he offered to help. It's happened. I don't doubt it. People have alot of issues with gender.
I have my own issues too, but I wouldn't let them make me react so rudely to a kind stranger or keep me from doing something nice/right when given the opportunity. Don't be jaded, LesMis. "Not everyone here is that [messed] up and cold." - Incubus, The Warmth