I'm gay, and we've effectively had equal same-sex marriage in South Africa since 2006.
I can say though that the behavior you describe isn't necessarily connected to "gay" marriage as such.
In fact, since then the SA gay movement has gone into somewhat of a slumber, despite alarming anti-gay laws on the continent and an influx of
It's also wrong to think that anything that same-sex couples do is immediately supported or seconded by all gay people.
There are race, class and gender divisions amongst lgtb people.
In fact, they are so strong here, that I sometimes wonder whether we'll ever have a unified movement again, without homophobic oppression as a common
At least in the mainly white community I've also heard complaints of especially women (who might identify as "gay/lesbian" or not) sometimes getting
tipsy at family venues, and people weren't very happy with the spectacle.
Some of the urban centers are very gay-friendly, but in the suburbs people are more conservative.
In the majority black townships a lot of reports and documentaries have focused on the violence and "corrective rape" directed at lesbians.
That is, some men think they can make lesbian women "straight" by raping them!
That makes me so tired of some heterosexual men and their patriarchal culture.
I think young people are more prone to make fools out of themselves, because when they "come out" they haven't integrated their sexuality into a
proper social order.
Apart from radical gender theorists, there is very little guidance for young people from well-adjusted lgtb stalwarts.
However, I've certainly seen young heterosexuals act similarly.
When I was in my early twenties I made out with people to shock authority figures, and my willing partners did the same.
I thought of the 1960's slogan - "Make Love not War", or "When I make Love I make the Revolution!"
Even worse, we thought all cultures who were fighting oppression seconded that view.
Now I think they probably thought: "Look at at those darn filthy white hippies!"
Oh well, that's hindsight.
Nobody at universities really teaches how conservative "other cultures" really are in that respect.
It's like the Baader-Meinhof socialist terrorists getting booted out of an Islamist camp because they stripped naked and believed that shooting and
f--king were the same.
Not sure, but I do sometimes feel women can get away with more than gay men, at least in Western culture.
However, gay marriage certainly hasn't changed homophobia, or people's attitudes.
If I go to the local bar alone, only a minority of guys will talk to me, and the rest immediately think I want their fat, ugly bodies.
But I hear so much prejudice every day - whites are bitter and arrogant twats, blacks are opportunists, lesbians are aggro and gay men only want
It's all nonsense, and sometimes all people misbehave.
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