posted on Nov, 27 2004 @ 10:54 AM
Being 53 myself and childless, I guess I will add my 2 cents. I would be very happy if I were able to have a child at this point in life. But, as
some have mentioned, there is this hormonal thing that means,once past menopause, it's not gonna happen. The majority of women 50+ are either going
through menopause or have gone through menopause.
Of course, you could use a surrogate mother and your husband's sperm, but I don't like th legal complications that would arise from that. It would
be heart-breaking to adopt a baby and then have it taken away.
Actually, at 53, my husband and I have the time, the money, and the LOVE to give a child..much more so than when we were younger (unfortunately he and
I didn't marry till 47, so we didn't have the option of having children younger).
My husband's mom was 44 when he was born and she lived to the ripe old age of 97..only dying a few months ago. She gave him tremendous love and
tremendous joy. Meanwhile, my own mom was 22 at my birth and died at 69. So, you can't always play the numbers game with that.
Morally, and ethically, I see no reason why an older woman who's in good health, financially able, and has the love to give shouldn't have a child
at a later age. Yes, there are more complications ---both for mother and child at that age--but that is something that can be taken into consideration
by the individual and decided on a risk analysis. For example, my MIL had to stay in bed her entire pregnancy with my husband. I would say it was
definately worth it and I'm very, very glad she took the risk of giving birth to him.