posted on Apr, 5 2014 @ 03:53 AM
reply to post by Tsu322
Grandmother aadopted her. We never married for credit purposes. I don't believe in spending more money than I actually have. I could never raise her
alone even if it was an option. I have some serious respiratory issues that will likely take me if the meds don't make me go blind first.
What I am going to say sounds harsh. And apparently you love and care for this child. But the fact is she/he is not your blood and you have medical
issues - which in a court is going to make you a difficult candidate for taking the child as it is, to say the least.
What you have to do - if you feel the child is not being taken care of or you have serious concern that the child wont be taken care of is to what
Neno and I said, use the Nanny cams and log book and log times, dates and instances etc of what they do with the child (whether that be mother or
grandmother as we are confused) and prove for a court that the child is not in the best environment without you there.
Then you let the chips fall where they may. Health or no you can ask for custody anyway, and see if you can get it... but you also must face the fact
that the child might be given to another blood family member or go to foster care.
But seriously, at one point you have to choose between your own well-being, and that of this child.
Emotional abuse is what this woman is doing to you... the child sees that quite plainly, as kids notice more than anyone realizes. And if this woman
is emotionally abusing you, don't you think she also would do the same to the child? And don't you think the child sees this everyday and is more than
just a little effected by it?
And don't you think that you are teaching this child - by doing nothing - that emotional abuse is normal? Do you want this child to grow up thinking
this kind of abuse is normal? That ANY kind of abuse is normal?
Do your best, but don't teach this kid that.... don't teach them that or they will grow up thinking its normal for them, and they are more likely to
be abused themselves...or to do the abusing.
Watching you stand up and NOT take it, will teach the child a lot more than you realize, and even if your not there its something that child will take
with them for the rest of their life. Not taking it anymore, is a good thing...
edit on 5-4-2014 by OpinionatedB because: (no reason