reply to post by Craninalbliss
Hate to say it, but city life is definitely less comfortable - I came from a town where everyone on the street knew each other, and there was very
little in town (no traffic lights).
When I moved out to my current location, the culture shock was almost intriguing in a way - People out here are wary of everyone that is around them.
Work is just that: Work. There is some idle chatter, but it's mostly a "Get in at 9, work until 5, and get out" type of place.
Here's a couple things I learned the hard way:
1. People will get offended very quickly, even if it's a life experience. For example, I mentioned something about how dangerous the outskirts of
Detroit are, and how people literally cross in the road regardless of the oncoming traffic...Well, I got pulled aside, because one person had a
relative that almost got hit doing that (If you aren't using a crosswalk, and decide to play Frogger on a 4 lane street...You get where my
conversation was going).
2. No-one is your friend at work - Sure, there are some nice people, and most will almost be some sort of "friend". But the second it comes to
layoffs, or the thought of you getting a promotion over them, that's when the mask will come off.
3. For the long commutes, bring an audiobook - In my case, I have about a 1 1/2 hour commute coming home - I'm considering starting to learn German,
as otherwise I'll be going into daydreaming mode.
4. Focus on the job - yes, it is nice talking and taking your leisure to get the job done, but in corporate terms, that would be "unproductive".
They want you to be the most efficient person in the company, because it helps them maintain their own workload.
5. At work, get out and exercise for about 10 minutes a day. This could be anything from walking out to get lunch, running up and down the stairs (if
you work in a multi-level building), or walking to the farthest bathroom in your building. Not only will this help to relieve stress, but it will make
you feel a little more alert.
Hope some of this helps, and if not, then listen to someone else.