posted on Mar, 25 2014 @ 03:30 PM
I know I may get attacked for this, but I have always hated tipping and I am hating it more each time I go out (I know, I know, I should just stay
home ... weak argument).
Last Saturday I went to a local bar with my brother to watch a UFC event. We have been to the same bar many times now, so many of the staff recognize
us (not sure if this played a part in this situation). As always we ordered food and a few drinks. And as always we both stopped drinking roughly an
hour before the event ended and switched to coffee and/or water. The server came to our table probably 15-20 times in the first couple hours
(seriously ... it was damn annoying).
She seemed to finally catch on that we were basically done with an hour to go and we were simply there to watch the event by that point (the bar
charged us cover, so no big deal. We were not taking a space from anyone else). At the end of the night the server went to every table around us,
giving bills to customers and taking payment. But she ignored us. At one point she was chatting with the table behind us, watching something on a
customer's phone. She avoided my glances. Finally after 15-20 of her wandering around I got mad and demanded our bill. We paid and as we left we got
a dirty look because we tipped a couple bucks on a $50 tab. Frankly, the $2 was more than she deserved.
It's obvious to me that tipping has far surpassed what it used to be ... a reward for good service ... and it is now expected. I have received
atrocious service, yet the waiters/waitresses get upset when I don't reward them for said crappy service. At a family dinner last year our waiter was
slow (restaurant was not very busy), forgetful, and brought 3 incorrect dishes. Yet as we were paying my sister (a server) insisted we tip 20%. Why?!
How is it logical to pay more money for bad service? Would any of us get a bonus if we screwed up at work? No, we would be reprimanded if not fired.
So why are servers so special?
In Alberta where I live minimum wage is $9.95 and $9.05 if you work in a place that serves alcohol. So none of that $2.13 garbage in the States. So,
therefore, no real reason for customers to subsidize servers. Plenty of people work for minimum wage in way tougher (and more dangerous) jobs, and
while they are not eating caviar every night, they generally are able to live, pay rent, etc. So why is it that we feel that servers are special and
deserve extra money? And why are servers accepting low wages (referring to the US here; $2/hour is ridiculous)?
To me the argument that if we get rid of tipping restaurants will become more expensive does not hold water. As I stated, servers in Canada get paid
much more than servers in the US, yet I doubt food prices are any different. I travelled to Taiwan last year and tipping is frowned upon there. We
called the hotel front desk at 2 am to ask for more bottled water. Within 3 minutes a hotel employee was at our door to give us the water and she did
not stick out her hand for a tip; she smiled, bowed, and went downstairs. Likewise the doorman never once expected a tip from us throughout the 2
weeks we were there. So if other countries can manage just fine without tips, why are we stuck in this mindset that servers deserve more money than